I have friend that with whom I am basically friends with because our parents are friends. Now, don't get me wrong, she's a good person and there is nothing wrong with her - that she can help.
To sum up the problem: She is a good 2.5 years younger than me and in the teenage years, this feels like 25 year difference.
I want to talk to guys or any other person but she is sort of in the way. For one, anytime were are together in a large group of people, she follows me as I try to socialize with one person or another. With guys, she says the dumbest things which lead into awkward silences. I feel bad for her since I do not know what to say to her as I'm trying to have a conversation with someone else.
I DO talk to her but outside of group situations. It is not that I am embarrassed to talk to her but rather that I would like to talk to people I normally do not get a chance to talk with. I can see her anytime I want.
Is there anything I can do to help me in the above "problem"?
2007-02-22 15:16:52 · 14 answers · asked by Basiate 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I thought about telling her straight out but I feel mean because then she doesn't have anyone else to hang out with - in her eyes.
In my eyes, there is plenty of people she could talk to. I mean, it's not like I know everyone every single time we're in a group.
But how do you break it to her without hurting her feelings? I don't want her to get hurt over a silly thing like this.
Even though it's really bothering me.
2007-02-22 15:24:16 · update #1
Tell her that sometimes you need to be alone with people your own age. Explain to her that you want to spend some "alone time" with some of your friends, but that doesn't mean that you don't still want to be her friend, too.
2007-02-22 15:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being close together might be the reason you are friends now. She obviously has her quirks but I would always be respectful to her and introduce her as a great friend in these situations. The guys will respect you more if you have a good group of friends. Be a leader of your relationship with her. If you know you want to talk to a guy, then talk to him. Step up and lead the conversation. Don't let her throw off your goal of meeting new people. Maybe then you will have even a larger group of friends. Please, show her respect and guide her in the right direction. Sometimes patience is the key. If she sees you as a leader and having fun with her and others she might try to follow in your footsteps.
2007-02-22 23:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by buster b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl u can eaisly tell her that in the nicest way that u have no problem with her hanging around with u but. al times u would like to hang out with other people too. not just her. tell her that u are not meaning to hurt her feelings. It is just that u see her all the time. there is other people she could hang around with too. As for guys, if there is a group of guys u can find one for yourself and then u can introduce one or two to her and leave them alone to get to know each other. she will defently understand
2007-03-02 21:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by ashfry101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your parents know how you feel? if so ask for their help in breaking the news to your younger friend. 2.5 years IS a big age difference. maturity levels change rapidly, as well as interest. even physically there can be big differences. be gentle with this girl. but be firm, your only a teen once and you should enjoy those years. good luck!
2007-03-02 23:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by racingirl14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Can you not socialize with this girl on separate occasions... It sounds as if she is with you from morning to night.. I think that if I were you, I would just talk to her one on one as it is a personal issue and reassure her that you are genuinely interested in her friendship, but when it comes to group situation it would be better if we could find ourselves a different group of friends to be with as some of the group feel that she is to young for this group,, NO OFFENCE TO HER AS A PERSON as they think she is nice but just young..
2007-03-02 09:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To avoid the awkward silences you could back her up with whatever it was she said. She probably feels worse about it than you do! Shes probably just trying to impress you. Be nice to her, laugh at her jokes, and just try to give her more confidence, maybe then she'll get better!! Either that or just stick it out! Good luck!
2007-02-22 23:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to have time for her and time on your own. If you made a commitment to spend time with her you can not expect her to be ignored. You should also have time on your own and if she doesn't understand you will have to discuss the age difference point with her. Be straight forward with her. In a couple more years this will no longer be a problem.
2007-02-22 23:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like there is no ay to help your friend then you may want to polietly tell her that you feel you need some space and she may leave you along in groups -
but if you think there isany hope for her you may want to tell her when she does something inappropriate so she can learn...
remember don't be cruel! but don't let her destroy our social life either =)
~Jazzii
2007-02-22 23:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She looks up to you. There is no way to not hurt her feelings.
You need to go without her to hang out with the different group of friends and not let her know your plans.
2007-03-02 19:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't enjoy this persons company, stop wasting their time. I'm sure they could be spending time with someone who didn't think they were dumb or an embarrassment. You aren't doing them as much of a favor as you think.
2007-03-02 03:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋