i dated a guy long time ago who is now one of my friend boyfriend , he is a player a week ago ago he call me for a booty call and i said no ,he told me no one is going to know he try to convince me that he likes me and blah blah ...everyones knows that he is cheating on her with differents girls , we try to tell her but she always telling us that she is the only one in his life and all kind of things that she making herself believe yesthurday he call me and told me that he admit that he is a player and still having a girlfriend he feel single and doesnt care about her i told him that stop bothering me and hung up i wish i just grab my friend and sit her up and tell her that he does not like her at all !!! i know that is not my problem my friends tell me that let her find out for herself but i feel like she deserve to know what kind of guy is he any advice please?????
2007-02-22 14:46:57 · 14 answers · asked by lachina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, you should tell her that he called you. If that doesn't convince her, there's nothing that you can do.
2007-02-22 14:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi lachina. I'm Corry. He is the kind of guy who gives all guys a bad name to some women. Your friend probably already knows but is not willing to accept it as the truth. I have had many women friends talk to me over the years about this topic. After they have had their heart broken. They ask if all their friends knew all along. I say yes, and they are very embarrassed and want to know why nobody told them. I ask each of them this question."Would you have believed them?" The answer is ALWAYS the same. "No, probably not". Nobody lachina, man or woman will believe something like that untill they are good and ready to. The best thing you can do for your friend is to be there for her when she needs you. Not to criticize her, this guy will have crushed her feelings already. She will need you and her other friends to simply listen without judgement on her and help her to rebuild a broken heart. I wish all the best to you and your friend. Please remind her that she will come through this and that most guys are not like that.
2007-02-25 04:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by Corry. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend must really like this guy if she is blinded by his player style. You've told her and she disregarded it. Now it's time to prove it to her by recording his call to you or having her catch him in the act. This will most definitely hurt her but she needs a reality check! Just be there to pick up the pieces afterwards and help her through it. Her cheating worthless prick of a boyfriend will get his one day. Karma is a b**ch! Hooray to you for being a good friend. She may not deserve your friendship now but she'll realize that men come and go but friends are forever! *smiles*
2007-02-22 22:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go on tell her what her boyfriend is doing, try recording his messages, and let your friend hear it, trap the guy into confessing, have an evidence, if your friend would not believe you,its no longer youre business, go and try telling it to her
its up to her to decide
and never ever get in the middle of those two, just inform her the truth and im glad that you wont even bother to give that useless man a chance
2007-02-22 22:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her. It doesn't mean she'll listen, and it definitely doesn't mean she won't get angry / yell at you / cry / say you're a liar, but then, when the conversation is over, she'll be thinking about what you said. Hopefully. it encourages her to reevaluate.
When broaching the conversation, however, I suggest you ONLY mention your involvement (ie - what he said to you on the phone about a booty call). Keep everyone else's opinions out of it. You have facts. Good luck.
2007-02-22 22:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by smiksmak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your friend you should tell her (especially if he called you)
If she ever found out from someone else that could end the friendship.
You need to break the news gently. If she doesn't believe you she may walk away and when he breaks her heart, you need to be there for her again
2007-02-22 22:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you tried telling her and she didn't want to take your advice the only thing you can do is be there for her. when she finds out what he is truly like. She is going to need her friends support to help her get through it.
2007-02-22 22:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by missy d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an Idea. Call this guy and pretend to agree to everything he says. Let him talk dirty all he wants. The trick: your friend is listening to your conversation. Then she'll break up with him. Like it?
2007-02-22 22:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by rhiannastone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things.
1: Use punctuation. The period is your friend. :)
2: You say, "we try to tell her but she always telling us that she is the only one." If you tried telling her and she didn't listen, then I would just walk away. Sounds mean, but there is only so much you can do.
2007-02-22 22:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Damian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a good friend you need to tell her maybe next time when he calls you need to record it and then play it for her like this she can believe you
2007-02-22 22:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋