Help. What is this ? Have you been there ?

Question

I am little interested in reality anmore - that is other people, societal conventions though I know that I am part of society, of course.

All I want to do is reading , that is mainly autobiographies), or well written articles about some theatre performance or film or
exposition, or play the piano . I play ok - but not brilliantly
and would like to become better.

I don´t want to see anyone really.

Is that normal ? Serious comments appreciated.

Answer 1

Ask yourself whether you are happy or content with your life-style. I suggest that you are not because you are questioning it. If you are enjoying what you are doing: reading, playing the piano (with the goal of improving), then there is no obvious problem with such activities. Your first sentence troubles me: you say that you are no longer interested in reality which, of course, is all there is! If you are endeavoring to avoid socializing for a specific reason, and if it is valid and not an evasion of what you consider reality, solitude is not a condition necessarily to be eluded at all costs; I find true satisfaction in being alone. However, if you feel that you are lonely, that people do not understand you, you may be depressed, in which case you should find someone in whom to confide who will counsel you. I hope that my advice is helpful to you...

Answer 2

Well, I don't know if it is normal but you are not alone. I totally feel this way! I have become so disenchanted with society that I really have no drive to communicate (other than when necessary) with other people. But part of the reason why I am responding to you is my self prescribed therapy! People in everyday life drive me mad! But here I can pick and choose who I speak to and how they affect me. It's a start and hopefully I will regain my drive. But for now my societal contributions are my answers on Yahoo! Answers! As for a remedy for you, maybe you should "just be" for a while. Learn how to enjoy people by enjoying yourself first. It's not so bad being an introvert. I believe you are someone who values good companionship and have not found anyone or any outlet worthy of sharing with. Take your time and don't worry. I believe that a little quality interaction with society is better than a ton of superficial or forced interaction. With the way the world is today, it's understandable that someone would want to, in essence, run away. For some people it is a way to heal wounds or renew perspectives. Whatever purpose it will serve for you, just relax and let it be.

Answer 3

is it normal?
I don't think there is such a thing as normal.

I think if you feel like investing in your hobbies, reading and playing piano, it's absolutly cool.
You just have to make sure you don't completely block yourself from people and life around you.

that you don't become unaware of your soroundings.

I had a phase I woke up and read until I went to sleep.
that was a very nice 3 months.

now I try to be more social, I still read, and play guitar.

but I was never a very social person, and it's a challange for me, I go through this challange because I discovered that when you click with a persom it's worth the effort.

anyway, good luck, and enjoy :)

Answer 4

I think if you've had some disappointing experiences with people its normal to retreat into a more perfect world - I've done it for periods at a time and you know what its nice and its relaxing and I learn a lot about myself when I spend time alone and then after awhile when I go back into the world I feel a bit better about it again.

Answer 5

My supposition is that you have been hurt to the extent that you find unacceptable and do not wish to be hurt again.

It's difficult (not impossible, but difficult) to completely avoid contact with other people and it sounds like you do not want to become a complete hermit. You maintain some association with the human race by reading about other people's lives, living vicariously, one might say.

It's your life. Live it the way it suits you, as long as you are not harming anyone else.

Be well. E-mail me if you want.

Answer 6

i guess thats normal its not like u will never want to date.