So I am a lawyer and he currently stays home full-time. We have no kids and I am NOT pregnant. Right now my husband is responsible for cooking and housework - and doing a good job! We're doing this because if we do have kids, he will be the full-time parent at home and (we both) want him to get used to it.
Let's say we do have a baby. Some questions: 1) How much maternity leave should I take? 2) How much housework should I assume on maternity leave? 3) Should I bottle feed knowing he will be the one doing feedings? 4) How hard will it be to drive off to the office? (I'm dreading this one!)
Thanks so much!
2007-02-22 14:23:14 · 10 answers · asked by Claudia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should at least take 12 weeks maternity leave, so that you can have some bonding time with your new baby. Depending on how you have the baby will determine how much housework you do. If you have a C section you wont be doing any for a few weeks, if natural, then maybe some, but being he is going to be home helping you probably wont have to do more than wash bottles and pick up. Yes bottle feed, since he will be taking care of baby while you are at work. If you breast feed you will have a worse time trying to pull yourself away from baby to go to work. The formula they have for babies now, is very good. It's going to be hard to leave baby when you go to work, but if you trust your husband and you see he is a good Daddy it will be easier on you.
2007-02-22 14:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. how much maternity leave is up to you. most people can't take more than what their insurance pays for. mostly for financial reasons. i would take at least 6 weeks. it will take you time to recover and get used to the 3 hours of sleep a night.
2. do as much housework as you can. it will depend on what you feel like and what type of delivery you have.
3. you can breastfeed while you are home and pump so he can feed the baby also.
4. it is hard to leave your children no matter what. but know that they are in good hands and you have to go back to work.
2007-02-22 14:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all usually people take 6 weeks off for maternity leave,which doctors say it gives you enough time to heal.You can breast feed but you will have to make a lot before you leave home,you may wanna just bottle feed if your husband is going to continue to be at home.You probably will not want to leave your child to go to work,I know the feeling.If your husband continues to stay at home,you two can split housework up or you may be lazy or in pain,and mayabe your husband well help out and just do it himself.
2007-02-22 14:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it'll work. Anything done with the love of 2 from you guys will work.
Take the 3 months maternity leave. If you work for a good firm, I am sure they pay for at least 6 weeks.
This time will serve a time for both of you to not only bond with the baby, but decide what's a good routine for you guys...
My hubby is more involved than me (20 month old) b/c I also go to grad school and work full time.
It can work!
Good Luck.
2007-02-22 14:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the women has minimum of 6 weeks of maternity leave and if you have vacation you could probably take longer. You can breast feed just pump so he can bottle feed when you return to work. But breast feeding and working can be hard to do, I know I had to do it. At first it may be hard to leave your baby, but eventually you know your baby is in good hands with your husband so it will be okay, relax.
2007-02-22 14:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by SUZANNA J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two of my friends are in your situttion.
Its very RARE but its WORKABLE especially if you are a high achiever and your husband is not really in terms of career.
Its actually HARDER to have two careers.
Obviously you should take less maternity than you would? How long do you want to breast feed? Probably that should be your maternity time.
Anyway, good luck. It can work.
Stumbling blocks are YOUR and HIS attitudes adjusting to him NOT being the bread winner. You can handle that, well, it certainly can work.
The only people I know in this situation have had martital stress but it worked out and none are divorced.
2007-02-22 14:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud of you guys. I'm a judge, and my wife's a CFO. I'm Christian; she's Jewish. I'm small town Canadian; she's a New Yorker. She worked (and works) longer hours, and I was always Mr. Mom. My advice to you is this: be true to yourself and to each other. You are going to have a lot of situations where there isn't much guidance. My wife used to express and freeze milk for the babysitter to feed our baby boy. Without knowing the kind of law you practice, it's difficult to advise you how to deal with your job. Do be careful about power and money squabbles between you. Consider reading "Getting to Yes." Good luck!
2007-02-22 14:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by bullwinkle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r trying to go against all rules of nature. Even though u stay at home, u do not want to breast feed the wud be child.
2007-02-22 16:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should cuckold hubby and break him as a man.
2007-02-22 16:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mark S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are new innovations in breast pumps if you choose to breast feed
2007-02-22 14:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by cashville_con 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋