i have been very bitchy lately to my husband & step son... any tips to help me calm down?

Question

i have a 9 months old & recently started back on birthcontrol, but i dont think thats why im so bitchy, i dont know what it is, but pretty much any/everytime one of them do anything i get aggravated. does anyone know of anything i can do, or have prescribed to me to help me,. i dont want to do this & i dont want to ruin my family

i have a 9 months old & recently started back on birthcontrol, but i dont think thats why im so bitchy, i dont know what it is, but pretty much any/everytime one of them do anything i get aggravated. does anyone know of anything i can do, or have prescribed to me to help me,. i dont want to do this & i dont want to ruin my family
i also want to add that i am a teacher atleast 15 kids a day (i started this school year in august) & started my bc in january.
& also it is very hard for me to get away from everyone, especally the little one, hes in a rough stage where he wants his moma all the time

adding while reading replys - im 22 & on ortho cyclen

Answer 1

Get on some meds and talk to someone ...

Answer 2

Could u be suffering from mild post partum depression?
U may want to check into it.
Or, they say it can take up to a year for your hormones to return to normal. It could be that stage where the adjustments are trying to get settled, and its making u crazy. Like it did when u first got pregnant. Remember that? lol The reason i say is because i am almost 8 months along, and am just now hitting that very emotional stage. The docs say it can take a year to get back after childbirth.
Just a thought. Or maybe ur stressed. Take some ME TIME. Get a massage and ur hair and nails done. Let go of some of the stress.
U will be fine i am sure, but do check into that.
GOod luck hun.

Answer 3

I say stay away from medication if at all possible. I've seen it do more harm than help in some situations.
Try relaxation exercises. Yoga, deep breathing, masturbation, shopping excursions. Whatever it is that makes you feel calm and at peace with the world. Reading helps me too. Read somethings written by Gandhi or some books on Buddhism. Even if your not into that sort of thing they are very relaxing and fill you with peace. You may just be lacking a whole lot of personal time. Don't be afraid to take it. Self awareness is the best therapy around.

Answer 4

You might want to get a lower dose of a birth control pill, I had the same response when I started the pill. Tell your doctor all of your symptoms, I am sure there is something that can be done. In the meantime when you feel that way take the baby and go for a stroll. Fresh air can do a lot of good!

Answer 5

as from what i read..it could be the birth control pills. im only middle school, i have never tried them because i dont need them...but maybe it could be menopause if ur in that middle age stage. im 13 and i act like that...and sometimes i feel like screaming at everyone around just because they are standing there or because i asked them a question and they didnt answer as quick as i would have wanted them too. but then again im 13 in middle school and puberty. but i am starting to think it could be the pills as i can see nothing else that would be obvious...maybe u could describe what uve been experiencing to a doctor...people on Yahoo cannot prescribe anything for u...all we can is suggest u go to a doctor...ur moods may also just be ur feelings...maybe ur hormones...it may not be normal but it may happen just this once. u need to gather patience and kindness and pray that God will take care everything. i tend to feel stress and get frustrated and annoyed. and sometimes i need to realize i need to tackle one thing at a time...it may not be stress...but just think, what if this was the last time u saw ur husband? u wouldnt want his last memory of u screaming and yelling at him for petty stuff would u?

Answer 6

This same thing happened to my EX,yes EX wife ! !!!, and from what I understand is a common occurrence . After our son was born she seemed to make a bond with him and shut me and my older boy out. I think having a Child of her own blood bumped him down a notch and she accumulated some sort of aggression toward me and there was what seemed to be resentment toward both of us. We did not try and get a handle on it till it was too late . If you don't want to be an Ex I suggest you get a grip on things . the first step to fixing a problem is to admit you have one and you seem to have done that and that is more than I can say for my ex, Go talk to a family counselor not a marriage console , you might try Catholic Charity's or Jewish family services so its not that much of a financial burden.

Answer 7

WOW! My ex-step sister just found out that she is diabtic<

Answer 8

I would definitely talk to your doctor about your aggravation. It could be the birth control pills messing with your hormones if you just started taking them. You need to find out the cause of the aggravation especially if you are working with other children. They can sense your tension and you want to feel good around them your family and you need to feel good yourself. Find out all stresses, and write down what you can do yourself to relax. good luck and remember just being a mom and a wife or girlfriend can still be stressful. You just need to work through it and you will feel better.

Answer 9

i would suggest communicating with ur husband and let him know how u feel. Maybe u feel ur not getting the support u need. Maybe u could be suffering from post natal depression. Talk to each other and try and come up with a solution to suit everyone. If this doesnt help maybe go to ur gp and talk to them. If ur gp cant help u he/she might be able to refer u to someone who can. The first step to solving a problem is identifying and u seem to be on ur way to doing that so good luck with the rest of it.

Answer 10

Have you tried any counseling services? If you are serious about this and really want help, try talking to someone that could professionally help you, before it is too late. Or maybe you are overwhelmed about your life's requirements. Sometimes people get too much on their plate and end up forgetting about themselves.. Why don't you take some time off and do things to please yourself. Try a pedicure, those are almost always the cure!

Answer 11

It might be that you are exhausted. You need to sit calmly by yourself one day and try seriously to identify one or a number of things that annoy you and thing of the reasons why. If you know what causes the problems you are in a position to do something about them. If you can't do then go and seek medical advice because it could be some form of depression that you will need help to overcome. Good luck