Say you been going out for 10 years, then pop the questions, married for 2 years then you notice that you married your wife due to responsibility and not love. What is the best way to let your wife know bout the situation??
2007-02-22 14:02:28 · 15 answers · asked by Med 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, btw no kids yet and yes there was love during early of the relationship and was thinking marriage will patch up the mess up.
2007-02-22 14:41:38 · update #1
Hahahaha..... truth is I'm not seeing anyone
2007-02-22 14:45:32 · update #2
I totally know how you feel. An eternal romantic, aren't you? It's hard to come to the realization that you love someone, but are not in love. It's hard to think about moving on after ten years, so you commit to the situation you are most comfortable with. You still want the butterflies in your stomach when you think about her, but with time they go away. I'm sure she is more aware than you think she is, women pick up on distancing very quickly. Maybe you should talk with her and see what her future outlook is of you two, maybe she will come forward with the same feelings. I feel for you though
2007-02-22 15:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only solution is divorce but you should really try to be honest with her about what the real problem is, she deserves at least that much.
I don't buy the story about a 12 year relationship based on responsibility and then you suddenly wake up and realize you are not in love, and neither will she.
Most likely truth is that you married because you thought it was the best deal on the table but have now met somebody else who you believe that you really love. If so, tell her that and not the face saving formula you are showing here. Protecting your image is less important than minimising damage to everyone involved.
2007-02-22 14:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you with her for 10 years if you were not in love with her? Is it possible that being married has resulted in new problems and feelings of committment that you did not have to deal with before. The first two years of marriage are the hardest. Hang in there and things will get better. You've invested too much of your life to just give up on this. If you still feel the same in a few months, then try marriage counseling.
2007-02-22 14:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you possibly all of a sudden (after 10 yrs.) realize that you married this lady due to responsiblity? What kind of responsibility would lead you to feel you have to marry someone & now all of a sudden OH I didn't really love her. What a lame excuse.....and what type of situation do you want to discuss with her? If it were me I would be happy to be rid of you, someone who didn't know the difference between love & responsibility!!! Give her a break & enable her the chance to find REAL love & possibly be able to trust the next person who hopefully knows the difference.
2007-02-22 14:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you care for her and value the years you have been together. And then explain that you thought you were in love with her but that is not the case, it is a caring and friendship you feel and you think it is best for both of you to separate. You can't live in a loveless marriage, not fair on her.
2007-02-22 14:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front with her.
Dont hit on her best friend or have an affair. Serioulsy, love may find you and that happens. Seen it before.
You both have responsibilities in this and if there was once love there, you can get it back.
P
2007-02-22 14:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that quite a hard pill 2 swallow. Pray about it. Try talking 2 someone...together. Maybe u 2 will be able 2 work it out
2007-02-22 14:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels the same way, the best thing to do is not waste anymore time. Both of you deserve to be with people who truly love you.
2007-02-22 14:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor together, see if there is anything there worth saving. It may just be you two are focusing on the wrong things and there is great potential for the two of you.
2007-02-22 14:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment.
Let us say, you made a baby. When the baby is born, can you say that you don't like the baby and just throw it out ?
2007-02-22 14:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by ken88dorset 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋