I have 3 kids, have been married to my husband for10 years,have no job experience,no education,and I'm broke.What should I do,give him an altimatum,or get an education and a job, and support him?
2007-02-22 13:59:31 · 19 answers · asked by MAMACITA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Neither of you have a job, then you are obviously on public assistance, and you have the odacity to sit on your **** asking for more help from us tax payers so you can play on your computer! GET A FRIGGIN JOB> HUSBAND TOO.
2007-02-22 14:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by maimatt7 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you get a an education and a job, do it for yourself and your kids but don't support him with it. I was divorced when my kids were 10, 6 and 2 and it was rough having to go to work after being a housewife for eleven years. Thank God I had a mother who helped me while I was at work. Your husband is the man of the house not another kid to take care of. Tell him to get a job and start taking classes. If he doesn't have one by the time you start working then tell him to get out. There are too many guys like that these days and it really makes me upset that they all can just zip up their pants and let the women take all the responsibilities! Love for the man wont feed your kids or keep a roof over their heads. His laziness will eventually kill it anyway.
2007-02-22 22:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get a job and support the family. If your husband won't get a job, then let him be a stay-at-home dad. He can take care of the kids and the house. There's nothing wrong with that. Don't worry about getting education for you first, you don't have that luxury. Just find the best job that you can for now.
2007-02-22 22:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked wether to get an education, a job and support him? That depends, does he help out around the house now? Does he help you with the kids? If the answer is no, then if the house is paid for or you are buying, you need to make him get out. Do you have close family or friend that can help you with the children for awhile, because it sounds like you may only have yourself to rely on. Sorry and good luck.
2007-02-22 22:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by espee65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and educate yourself and learn to be independent. I wouldn't support him if you got a job, don't tell him how much you make and put most of it in the bank, just continue to live as you do now. However, you will find if you get an eduction and move on you will leave him behind and eventually I can see you separating.
2007-02-22 22:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT your job to support him unless there is a medical reason for it.... Helping him is a different story than just letting him sit on is kadoodle..... I would sit that man down and explain to him a few facts of life...... He needs to shape up or ship out..... You can get Gov. help with getting an education and a good paying job..... He can move out and sit on the corner with the other dead beats !!!!!! sorry, but this just makes my blood boil ....... I wish you all the best and God bless
2007-02-22 22:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you live with him 10 yrs like that and the relationship is still survive? You must be working very hard to provide for the family. How longer can you go like this? Should he be more responible as a husband and a father of three his kids. I think you need to do something about this.
2007-02-22 22:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both he needs a job to support you and the kids and you get an education as much as we would like to think it will the marriage may not last forever so protect you and the kids and have a fall back plan
2007-02-22 22:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by HOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he always been the one to work and support the family, or do you guys live off the state?
I would tell him to climb his lazy *** off the couch and go be a man and bring home some bacon!!!
U have a full time job at home, and if u went to work, it would mean giving all ur income to the babysitter. He is the man of the house, he should be taking care of his family. Ur doing ur part.
Its time he did his.
If ur living off the state.....give us ur address so we can come kick him in the ***. We are deserving since we are the ones supporting him.
The rest of us work and take care of ourselves, if he is physically able to work, and is just lazy.....i would be embarrassed if i were u.
He needs to step up and get a job.
There are no free rides and i resent anyone who takes advantage of the working folk in this country.
The sooner u tell him the better.
2007-02-22 22:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he bitter because you haven't worked?
I'd investigate work study! School is fun! Working is fun! It's like challenge, and worth, and pay all rolled into one.
It may not pay much at first, but you've got a built in non-working babysitter. Keep him! He's the only free babysitter you'll ever have. Maybe both of you could do work and school.
...and truly, what could be better for your children?
2007-02-22 22:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his A** to the curb. He's no good. I was in the EXACT situation a couple years ago. That's what I did. Still had to get a job though but I don't support him.
2007-02-22 22:06:25 · answer #11 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋