Our sex life was good so I thought! What do I do now? Should I confront him and ask why he is doing it again or what?
2007-02-22 13:53:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally think porn is fine and can be enjoyable to watch together.
If you are against it for whatever the reason then yes I think you should talk it through with him. Maybe you can come to a mutually beneficial arrangement.
2007-02-22 13:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have read this question so many times in advice columns. Definitely confront him. He could end up in jail if the models are underage. I know a young man whose life was ruined because of that - the porn he was looking at was classified as child pornography because the models were underage. He's branded a sex offender for the rest of his life.
2007-02-22 21:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that your sex life isn't good enough, he just needs some variety. You've probably been married a long time. It's not like he's cheating on you or going to run away w/ a porn star. Have a glass of wine and watch it with him. He'll probably like it.
2007-02-22 21:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by mellygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys watch porn...that's just how it is. My boyfriend watches porn an we have a great sex life. I would personally rather let him watch that then go out and fulfill his fantasies in real life...wouldn't you. It's really harmless...unless he's making porn and i misunderstood your question. I would comfront im and ask him why he lied to you...but don't expect him to stop watching it...guys are pervs!! :)
2007-02-22 21:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by giggles for breakfast :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a man.....let him look at it. He doesn't do it because he is unsatisfied with you, he does it just for something else to stimulate him..who cares?? He loves you right?
I mean unless you are like a re-born again christian and you both have agreed for the sole purpose of purifying your life,( which goes both ways) that he will never pick up porn again then I wouldn't worry about it to much:)
it sounds like maybe your a little insecure, don't be.
2007-02-22 21:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Hollywood*M* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He WILL do it again!...Don't think for a minute,he won't!
My boyfriend did the same thing,so I Know how you feel.
It hurts and to me,it's the same as "cheating".
You want to know what I did?.....after my boyfriend said he wouldn't do it again.....I made sure he wouldn't!.....
While he was at work..I found ALL the dirty videos.....
I cut the film,just enough that it would be "eat up in the VCR".
Then..I put them back...exactly where he had them!
He couldn't yell at me about it....because THEN..he
would be admitting ..HE LIED!
End of problem!...
And...I found them....in the trash...without a word from
me or him! ( where he had thrown them!) :)
Hope this helps. :)
2007-02-22 22:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by loves watching deer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely confront him, and require that he go get some help for his porn addiction. He is hurting himself and you and is stealing from the marriage by diverting his attention and desire to images instead of to the wife he married.
Demand he get help asap, and if he doesn't then there needs to be consequences...perhaps consider seeing a counselor for more detailed advice.
2007-02-22 21:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as he only plays with you and his fantasies are carried out with you then I can't see the harm. If you don't like it then that's okay. If the rest of your marriage is wonderful don't worry and get on being happy. Of course you can ask him calmly what he gets out of porn but do it as a natural conversation don't be angry or judgemental, just listen and try to understand.
2007-02-22 21:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Porn is an addiction. Just like drug abuse. Keep stating your objections and remind him that prolonged pron addiction can cause him to be unable to reach climax with out it! No joke it is a fact.
2007-02-22 21:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of guys do it. Many married men. It doesnt matter how great the sex is, just dont blame yourself. It really doesnt mean you are doing anything wrong at all, its just natural for most guys to do it regardless. If you really have a problem with it, try to talk to him about why he does it, but for the most part, dont think there is anything wrong with the sex. Guys just do it.
2007-02-22 21:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by BittersweetDude 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋