I am 20 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. He is 22. We are both in college. Our parents want us to wait. He wants to wait. But I have this intense URGE to have a baby. It has been going on for quit a while and lately I have been dreaming about it every night. I know that I need to finish school and get a career and a house. But deep down inside me I really want to get pregnant and have a baby!! Why?!?!
2007-02-22 13:46:42 · 12 answers · asked by rel541 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
it could be your maternal instincts
it could be the way you were raised
it could be phycological
there could be tons of reasons you want one now. It might be that your body is totally ready to bear children, and it is telling you that you are ready. then you are taking it as an urge to have children.
2007-02-22 13:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's instincts...all part of the evolutionary process. I too wanted a baby when I was your age. In fact, I wanted one even earlier. Luckily, that didn't happen as the guy I was with turned out to be a real jerk. After his drama I ended up leaving him. It would have been horrible had I had a child with that nutcase. I'd be tied to him forever :(((
It's best just to wait until your done with school. Otherwise, you won't finish. I say that because I know how hard it is to be pregnant and finish school. I have only two courses left and I'm dragging my feet. My sister has been doing the same for two years now. Everything gets harder and more complicated with a baby. You can't just leave and go to class or go to study. Heck, there is no time to study!! Plust supporting a child is not cheap...and a good job helps. Or, if you aren't working a nest egg is really nice.
2007-02-22 14:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 35 year old stay at home mom with 2 small children. I'm totally overwhelmed all the time. That's the truth. Don't do it until you and your boyfriend are ready. I don't know you but I imagine you want a baby when you know you're not ready to either fill some void in your life (feeling unloved) or to save a bad relationship. Both are bad reasons. Resist the urge. You have plenty of time and your future children will have a better life it you get your own life settled first.
2007-02-22 14:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural instinct to want a baby. I wanted a baby when I was 17! I would wait, finish school and ignore your urge as hard as it is. College with a baby, would be hard. In fact, you might even quit college. I say follow your dreams before you tie yourself down with a baby. I'd also be married first, and men can up and leave whenever they don't like how things are in their life for instances if they feel they made a mistake having a baby. I'm a 21 year old, married woman that is living with my parents and my son because we made stupid choices. =\
2007-02-22 13:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can identify with how you feel. I'm 21, a college student, and in a 2 year relationship. I too am anxious to have a baby. I don't think it means you are trying to fill a void; I think it is just natural to want to reproduce, especially when you have a partner you care about. However, I agree with everyone else that it is best for you and your future children that you wait until you finish school, get married, have a stable financial situation, etc. I'll be waiting too :)
2007-02-22 14:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r too young to be tinking abt that especially when u haven not step out into the harsh working society yet. At 20, you may not be financially stable enough to support ur child and may have to depends on others. Is ur bf also ready for this commitment? I feel tat you should go out and experience life before being tied down to all the chores and responsibility of being a mother. Stop thinking abt it now.. u will koe when the time ready!
2007-02-22 14:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by December 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your biological clock is ticking huh?? :) Just give it time, the urge will pass I am sure.. I wanted a baby so bad 2-3 times before I finally decided the time was right...
2007-02-22 13:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hormones....
Just stick it out and finish school... then get a good job, work for a year or two... in the meantime, concentrate on taking your relationship "to the next level"... then buy a house, and get knocked up.
You're still young and have lots of time to start a family.
2007-02-22 13:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
babies are the BEST thing that could EVER EVER happen to anyone, however, you and your partner have to be ready in ALL aspects...mentally and financially. Finish schooling first, that is more important right now. I do feel what your feeling right now though, my husband and i are trying for our second and im feeling the SAME URGE to have one NOW! all in good time though! Good Luck to you!!! :o)
2007-02-22 13:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by yesyesyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋