I messed up all the lives i got involved in. Freinds and my gfs. Even my own family. What do i do wrong. My own family tells me im a failure and that i should leave that i am a problem and that all i will do is hurt everyone i know. And the sad part is they are right. I have hurt everyone i know in some way. I care for evyone in my life. but i hurt them. And since i do i am going to leave vanish. Walk away from it all.
2007-02-22 13:45:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont know you but usually people who "vanish" do it to have those angry at them to feel guilty. it would be ANOTHER selfish act on your part, for AGAIN putting your family in fear for your safety, in guilt over they're part in it. just be a man and get some counseling. it sounds as if you are a narcissist. below is a link. read it carefully and then give the discription to your family. see if they agree. and then get some help. running away is just an attention seeking,self serving move to make you look like the victim and your family looking like the guilty. IF you truly want to make things better, stick around and make a good move!
2007-02-22 13:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I did this so many times in my life, I'm now 33 and people ask me how I stay so young! Well I have been there and done that, let me tell you. From growing up till just a few years ago thats all I ever seemed to do was just mess everything up, but I wasn't trying to it just ended up that way, it was always someone close to me to that I would hurt or just something would go wrong and you know what I use to do? The same thing your talking about doing. Yep and people would tell me the same thing, that I was the cause of everything and just drill me to the ground so yeah I would leave and just start over somewhere else and then the same thing would happen and there I am running again. But I stopped that just a few years back now, I learned that the only way to get through something was to just face it and deal with it, alot of pain comes with this though but thats to be expected. I'm sure your a strong person and you can do this. Whatever you messed up just look at what you can do to fix it, one step at a time don't leave because then you will never be able to get through it, it will always be there. We have to learn from our mistakes and nobodys perfect and we all deserve a second chance. So before you decide to just up and leave would you maybe just try and work things out and fess up ya know, tell people your sorry and your going to hear alot of lecturing but I'm sure you can handle it. Just try that first and see what happens.
Good luck!
2007-02-22 22:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask why you are thinking about leaving everyone. Is it to get away from hurting everyone you care about, or is it because you want to get away from being held accountable for all of the pain you've already caused? If it's the latter, then you can't leave because then all you would be doing is releasing yourself from the responsibility of having to fix the damage you've done and where's the real benefit in that? You won't learn anything from your mistakes. If you want to run away because you're afraid of hurting even more people, then you should ask yourself what it is about yourself that is causing all this pain and take some steps to change. You've already hurt the people you care about so the only thing you can do is try to fix it. there's no use in crying over spilled milk. all you can do is clean it up.
2007-02-22 22:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Isaac G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels that way at one time or another, but instead of running away, why don't you start making some changes beginning with the way you think about yourself. Take some kind of class that will build up your self confidence and will give you a goal to accomplish so that you can start proving to yourself and others that you're not a failure. Take a class like rock climbing or acting, or anything that you like and you know that it will be a challenge. Also when you start to change, the people around you will respond positively. Just don't mess up like before.
2007-02-22 22:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has this fantasy at some point in their life... for the very same reasons that you give. I can tell that you are young. Your life isn't even halfway finished and you are willing to call yourself a failure. You don't know it, but you are stronger than that.
You are right to take a break. You are right to walk away. Give yourself some perspective on what has been going on in your life. Learn from your mistakes. Then, go back. Fix what you can. Apologize for what you cannot fix. Carry on with your life and try not to make the same mistakes again. You have learned that you are only human and will make mistakes.
Welcome, young one, to the human family. Glad you're here.
2007-02-22 21:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe going away is a good idea. But realize you can't walk away from yourself, which is the real issue.
Maybe finding someplace that offers a program to help you deal with your emotional problems would be very good.
When you've got yourself together, then you could go home and not hurt everyone. They'd be really happy to have you back if you didn't hurt them.
I know, cause I have a brother like that. He hurts everyone he loves. We'd be really happy if he could be with us and not hurt us.
2007-02-22 21:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sara Katrina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. so u found ur mistake i guess ur family are only upset becuz u keep on do what u are doing so they are fed up but u kno the problem so solve them. u running away wont help so just deal with it now than later when it si too late and your family really mean what they say. stop acting like a jerk and get on with life you just have to pick up where you leave off but o a new page.
2007-02-22 21:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Shaneka H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to deal with your self no mater where you go, It will be much better to stay and work things out. You know what you've been, and therefore, you can just set down and figure out what you need to do, maybe a family member can help you, if you ask.
2007-02-22 22:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by Auburn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away little boy. why would you want to stick around and try to repair the damage when you can just vanish. what a cowardly thing to do. grow up already.
2007-02-22 21:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go away. Straighten out your problems. Fix your life.
Then you decide, if you want to go back.
2007-02-22 22:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by ken88dorset 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋