Should I tell my husband....?

Question

I am happily married. My husband and I trust each other completely. A few days ago I ran into my first boyfriend. We dated for a few months but it was just kissing boyfriend it never went furhter than that. Seeing him 16 years later was quite shocking to me but he approached me and said hello so I had to say hello. He did most of the talking asking me questions about my lifeand telling his life, he said I looked so beatiful and that he wanted to make love to me. I imediately said no that I was married and going to be unfaithful to my husband. I said good bye and left. I came home and was glad to see my husband. I just could not find myself to tell my husband what happened. We talk about everything but somehow this was just embarrasing to talk about but now 2 days later I fell like I should tell him what happened... What should I do?

Answer 1

tell him the truth. it is always better. because eventualy it will come up and he would loose some trust in you. it is not worth it. plus you did not do anything wrong, the opposite.
BE HONEST ALWAYS WITH YOUR PARTNER.
I learned the hard way

Answer 2

Don't worry about it.
You haven't seen the guy in 16 years, so you probably won't see him again for another 16.
Nothing happened, he came on to you and you turned him down, no harm done.
If it really bothers you alot, go ahead and tell him, but you run the risk of, if your husband runs into him it could be ungly.
I would just leave it alone unless its costing you sleep or something.
If it was someone else, besides your first bf, and they came on to you like that, would you tell him?
If the answer is yes, tell him.
If no, don't stress over it.

Answer 3

I was just wondering how could a happily married wife date her first boyfriend for months and even kiss him?
You should not only TELL your husband but you should CONFESS YOUR SINS to him and ask for forgiveness for being unfaithful. The moment a spouse started to have a longing desire that it LUSTING other than her husband, she had already committed adultery in her heart, so don't even dare say that it is just kissing. You have already given a part of yourself to this lover and therefore it is considered to be unfaifhful .
Don't yield yourself to temptation. Avoid it, run away from it, don't confront it. don't pass by it.
RESIST TEMPTATION IN EVERY WAY YOU CAN.

Answer 4

I would definately tell him. He would appreciate that u did and not keeping a secret from him. He will also appreciate the fact that you handled yourself in the appropriate manner.
U need to tell him because its what your conscious is telling u is right. You would want to know, had this happened to hubby right? So keep that in mind.
U did the right thing girl, and your hubby will be proud of u.
Keep up the open relationship. Sounds like the two of you have something that only some of us dream of.
Good luck hun.

Answer 5

I'd tell him you ran into an old boyfriend and said hi, but leave it at that. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to share every little detail. You're still entitled to a private life.

And stay the hell away from that creepy perv of an ex.... what kind of psycho runs into a girl he dated 16 years ago and after a brief conversation says he wants to make love to her..... What a loser!!!

Answer 6

I THINK YOU SHOULD>especially if u feel guilty. i am married and about 3 weeks ago i see that my husband was searching for past school friends on the internet. he didnt talk to them but just tried finding where they lived... i was so hurt that he didnt tell me especially since he didnt do anything wrong> but when u find out on your own it hurts worse and the longer u wait to tell him the more worse u make it. i bet he will say " why didnt u tell me when it happened?" i wish my husband would have told me sooner or said that he was curious to know where old friends were because when i found out i felt like he was hiding it for a reason.. anyway you get my point and i think u know what u need to do:)

Answer 7

First of all, you did the right thing by refusing your 1st boyfriend's advances and keeping your marriage's vows to your current husband. Therefore, you have not done anything wrong or shame to your husband as well as yourself. As for telling the truth, in this case, I would suggest NO because it's only going to upset your husband and create some doubts in his mind about you. As long you don't cheat on your husband, then it's okay. You don't need to feel guilty about not telling him the truth. Sometimes, the truth is benefiting you and sometimes it's not and this is the case.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I think you should tell your husband. You didn't do anything wrong. You did the right thing. I think your husband should be happy he has such a faithful wife. If you have an open relationship I do not see why this would cause a problem.

Answer 9

My best advice to you is ( Keep it to yourself)

There's no reason to tell your husband. You never cheated. You never be dishonest. You simply avoid from telling him this little thing... Your Husband will remain the Husband he is now rather than being curious of the guy... Just keep it between you and God. The fire hasn't blazed, so leave it as it is.

Goodbye for now.

I'm a male.

Answer 10

Hi there , Did you tell your husband about him before your marriage. If yes , you can tell him that you met him the other day and it was just a casual hi-bye thing. Thers no need to tell him the details. In this way you can be faithful in telling him about your ex too :)

Answer 11

I counsil women like you, hellooooooo? what is there to tell your husband? you sound like your feeling guilty you didn't say yes to the old bf!
I mean he just felt Strong feelings for you, thats not any big deel! why do you feel like you need to tell Anyone? heck you shoulda felt good about him still thinking your hot enough after being married forever to even wanna give you the time of day. go buy some thongs for your husband.........