No one used to get divorced back in the day or so it seems. Now everyone is cheating on eachother. I read these questions and start to feel like there's no hope for my marriage lasting. I'm scared to even have kids because I don't want them to see a divorce. My husband and I are both 26, married at 23.
2007-02-22 13:25:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all you make your marriage work because you choose to work through the good times and the bad times together. My husband and I do not cheat on each other at all so no not everyone is cheating for that matter. There is definitley hope that your marriage will last . Marriage is what you make of it. Communicating is a key component to a successful and happy marriage and being unselfish and giving. You need to love and treat each other the way that you would want them to love and treat you. God also has to be the center of you marriage too. Honesty and mutual respect is very important as well. If you face problems you cannot over come yourselves then seek help and counseling from a marriage counselor. Hold hands alot and never stop loving each other. Take the word divorce right out of your marriage dictionary and vocabulary. Do not try changing each other instead work on changing yourself to be the best spouse you need to be for your husband or wife. Keep your love and marriage alive with new ideas and doing fun things together. Love is spelled time. Go out on dates regurally with each other as well. Always do special and nice things for each other just because! And do not forget to tell each other every day that you love each other.
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2007-02-22 14:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one used to get divorced back in the day, because there were a lot of women who couldn't get divorced for financial reasons. I'm sure there were a lot of women back then who may have secretly wished for divorce, but stayed because of a lack of options.
Also, attitudes were different. Divorces were looked upon with a sense of shame. Again, that isn't the case today.
Also, everyone is not cheating on each other. I've been married over 15 years and haven't cheated on my wife. I'm sure a lot of people on here could make similar claims. It's not the people who have been happily married that do the posting here. There is nothing to post about. It's those who are not happily married, so that's why it seems skewed.
If you and your husband are still happy after three years, I wouldn't hesitate on having kids.
2007-02-22 13:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are in are early thirties not even in the 35,or 36! We've been married for ten years. We have two children. We ae very happy!! It works because we don't try to chang each other I accept his flaws and him mine!! Its very important to be each other's biggest cheerleader!! Its important to spend time witheach other just as it is to spend time apart!! We sill date and stay in touch with your feelings for one another and lots of good old hot and spicy sex always helps!! Stay sexy !! Stay romantic and keep people out of your business!! What happen between you and him learn to work out between you and him!! To many opinions will lead you asatry from your spouse!! Get advice from a mature happy married couple not single friends or divorcee!! Marriage is a journey expect some bumps in the word but always be prepared an never look for excuse not to love!! Love covers a mulitiudes of mistakes and mishaps!! If each of you love the other more than you love yourself you will never have any real issues!!
2007-02-22 13:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been married too long (3 years) but what makes our marriage work is being able to laugh with each other, not hold grudges, and talk about our problems and be completely honest. We know to also be faithful, and every so often we need to go out on a date, or go on a weekend vacation. Never go to bed angry, and always kiss each other goodnight.
2007-02-22 13:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by glassflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been married for 14 yrs. We have our up and down. There is no remedy to make a marriage work. You and your husband need to discuss your priority and commits to your marriage. Marriage needs a lot of work. You need to give 110% into this and things will fall into place.
2007-02-22 13:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by solitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not any such subject as a acceptable marriage. A thankfully married couple is two those that are dedicated to a minimum of one yet another and artwork mutually to make there marriage be what they like it to be.
2016-11-25 01:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 25yr and not all was happy but for most part it was and still is. All I can say is alot of talking and telling each other your feels about thing and compromise alot and make time for each other not so caught up in work all the time.
2007-02-22 14:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by dek0563 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to accept who your partner turns into . been married 26+yrs and neither one of use is the same person that we were .
2007-02-22 13:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_ol_hippie_radical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋