Last night we were in bed and he was whispering sum numbers, I asked whats up? he said im just thinking of when im old and ugly your going to be young and cute. I said you have nothing to worry about! and he said yes I do you could always leave me for someone younger! Is this a red flag I ask myself? Am i in for a rude awakening?
2007-02-22 13:24:52 · 13 answers · asked by Stripped 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I smell insecurity. Actually in my case its the other way around. I am 34 and my boyfriend is 27. We are already on our 6th year together (7th this April). He fears that I might find a more younger guy and replace him. He just need reassurance every now and then. Whisper to him sweet nothings. He is like a child that needs some attention. Pamper him and stop talking about age! Old men hate that :) Let him feel he is important. Or you can give him a taste of his own medicine and tell him (in a joking manner) he might be the one looking for a younger guy later on? Create moments in your relationship.
2007-02-22 21:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by PAXson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the rude awakening...you are in love with an idiot! Sorry to be so blunt, but blunt is fun. When he is 60, you will be 50! ah, such a difference! I suspect he is trying to get out of this thing, and is using the old,"You deserve better than me in life" line that guys hand out so easily. And yes, he could always leave you for someone younger! Sounds as if that is exactly what he has in mind to me. Fall for nothing, believe nothing, for this man is a liar. In fact, I think if I were you, I would jump up, agree with him, tell him you hadn't though of it like that, and be out the door. At least you will have turned the tables on him.
2007-02-22 13:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is only a number, and if the love is truly there then you can make it through anything. The question is, is does he love you as much as you love him. It seem like he could be making excuses to get out of the relationship now. 10 years is not that big a difference and you both are mature adults who knew what you were getting into when you started the relationship. Ask him is he trying to back out because of your age. Talk about it and be open and honest with your feelings.
2007-02-22 13:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your age is going to matter until he hits his 50's .UNLESS--HE EXCERSIZES -He has to keep healthy inorder to keep up with you. UNLESS-your enjoy the same exact things that he does. When he wants to stay home and watch TV. Do you want to stay home with him or do you want to do something different. Such as--going out with the girls. Think about it--- Not all people age the same... If I were you I'd take it one day at a time. Don't go looking for another guy if you love this one. Don't make the mistake of getting married,tho. That way you can take your good ole time and not worry about breaking vows. If you have children--you may want to take a long hard look at the relationship. Do you need him for support (money). Do you need him for a DADDY. If you anwser NO to these 2 questions--then have fun. Enjoy each other.
2007-02-22 13:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years is really not that big of a difference, it just seems so much more of a gap when you're younger. I think that what he is saying might be a red flag, I would just prepare myself for the worst. But I hope everything turns out ok for you!!
2007-02-22 13:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by AmandaVP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a 20 year gap between my partner and I and we're now in our 22nd year together. The only real issues that come up is the music we enjoy. The biggest factor in our relationship is commitment and love.
2007-02-22 13:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by pugmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a 7 year age difference between my partner and myself. When we were younger, it seemed so much larger. Believe me, you will adapt. I wouldn't trade him for the world.
2007-02-22 13:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Wheaties 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is 11 years difference between my husband and I and there hasn't been a problem with it yet and I don't forsee one. But if you are questioning it I would say you might need to address it
2007-02-22 13:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and he loves you then you both would see age as just a number
2007-02-22 13:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, if that was the case what am I doing here now, and as he gets older so do you, when hes 70 you will be 60 and so on and what happens if you lose your libido first, is he gonna look for someone else.Ask him and see what he says to that.
2007-02-22 13:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋