was so hurt by my ex's in the past that I now rejoice at the thought of never ever..ever falling in love again.. I happen to love too much & loose the guy or get one who loves me too much and I feel resentful. Now the thought of getting into a relationship fills me with dread. Its been 5 years now, I feel content with my life but wonder if am a 'type' that's cut to be single forever or did the hurt turn into a phobia. My social life is great....but I hate the idea or even thought of ever LOVING again. What do you think?
2007-02-22 13:23:52 · 17 answers · asked by sallysleek 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
well i think that anyone male or female doesnt need to be loved.. the only person that you can truly reli on in life is yourself... all anybody ever wants is true love and people spend there whole lives searching for something that could maybe not even exsist.... we all want it and crave it... but do we need it is the question.... do we need another hassel in life.... i dont think so.... we women are strong enough on our own we dont need a man to tell us that or to boss us around.. i think that it is great that you are realizing this.... its hard concept glad u grasped it
2007-02-22 15:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was hurt,physically and mentally in the past.
Lived 7 years on my own and then met a man as a friend, he is now my soul mate.
He understands my idiosyncrasies and accepts me for who I am.
I am in love again now: this time it is real, no pain, and I rejoice in it.
You are happy as you are: or so you claim. You are asking this question which makes me think are you really happy or hoping for love in the future?
Each to their own but I am so glad I spent that time on my own, getting to know me. Without that I would not have been able to appreciate what I have now.
Maybe you will stay as you are: maybe you will meet someone. Don't dismiss that person. If not a lifetime companion that person could become your best friend.
Enjoy being you. I wish you all the best. x
2007-02-22 13:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ilkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never give up on something like love. It can be painful and even horribly cliched, but it's way worth it. Humans have a hard time exsisting without love, so if you plan on being alone your whole life....it'll be a sad life. The pain may be raw now, but I promise if you let go, it'll fade. Holding onto the pain by swearing off of love hurts no one but yourself. And you seem to have had enough of that.
~Kyuuki
2007-02-22 13:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by SugarSw33t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i believe you have just not met the right man you cant love the right man to much and stop thinking that way don't punish yourself for having wrong relationships it is not a crime of failure try again and look at the man you are with you may have to change a little Dave
2007-02-22 18:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been expressing Love in your social life. So you are capable though I feel you are fearful of allowing your heart to be broken again. The heart is very resilient and is able to withstand. Never give up on Love. If you live to be old and gray and never find your love, you will be able to sit in your rocker and remember all the romantic interludes you experienced and smile.
2007-02-22 13:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by bill.2933 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are choosing to be hurt and you are choosing to avoid love.
Hurt? You choose to experience that feeling. You can choose not to. You are playing the part of a victim here. Poor you, hurt by someone and can't experience love anymore. If that's who you want to be then fine. Personally, I would choose to look that fear straight in the eyes and tell love to bring it on. I can take it. I don't want to live in fear and never love again. Have courage, man, you may find something wonderful.
2007-02-22 13:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Keenu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 years on my own and I feel similar to you. I also think I am cut out for the single life - I am open to the fact that this might change though - and so should you be
2007-02-22 20:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be how you feel at the moment and if it is then stick with it. Just think though, the walls you have built up to protect yourself from hurt might just become the walls that hold you prisoner from moving on if you are not careful.
2007-02-22 19:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could talk all night about what i think but I'll cut it short...
there is a book called women who love too much, it's about codependency, every woman who reads it See's herself in it. Sorry can't remember who wrote it but she sure new what she was talking about. I read it and it changed my life. There is also another book called opening our hearts to men, it's the best book I've ever read...life changing, it helps us girls to see where men are coming from and a new respect for them to...maybe not the answer you hoped for, but good luck in your search...
2007-02-22 13:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by ;) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Will is positive, the Judgment is negative. Dread I know, but rejoice? never at loves death.
2007-02-22 13:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋