So lonely, ugly and depressed...?

Question

'm afraid to go outside b/c I'm am so ugly; I am so afraid that people will judge me for how I look... I just want to stay in bed and cry all day; why can't I be normal? I'm going to be a virgin forever because nobody even wants to be seen with me. I'm stuck like this and it pains me everyday. I can't deal with anymore. I don't even want to live anymore because everyday is pain for me! It's eating me inside like cancer and one day I feel like I'm just going to crack!! I can't deal with it, everyone treats me like a disease... I am so depressed and lonely b/c of it... What are some things I can to get someone, ANYONE!! (A real person) as a friend... ? I am so lonely and in need of a companion so badly... Help me! ANY Advice!

I'm afriad... **... my bad.

I'm in shape and a normal weight, it's my face!!

No, b/c I used to be happy and smile at people, and now whenever I even say "Hello" at someone w/ a smile they say eww and walk away!! DO NOT tell me it's my fault!!

Don't you DARE tell me looks don't matter!! That is total bullsh*t!!

Answer 1

i'm not gonna say looks dont matter either, because in truth it does. if people dont wanna even look at you they wont get to know the real person you are. if u say everything else about you is good except your face, youre a lot better off than a lot of the worlds population. if theres stuff u can easily fix like a unibrow then do that. get your eyebrows waxed and if u have acne get some proactiv... theres so much easy stuff u could do to look so much better. i have a big forehead so i wear big flashy earrings to distract away from it and it works. im sure if u go to a beauty salon and ask them what you need to do to look your best theyll help you and youll have confidence in no time. good luck

Answer 2

I find it hard to believe that you're so ugly that no one wants to be friends with you. Seriously, part of this is your attitude... stop being so down on yourself. People don't want to hang out with a downer. I don't know why you think you're ugly... but i know there are some things you can always work on... even so-called pretty people need to work on their body (hit the gym, go walking), good hygiene (wear perfume, shower daily, whiten teeth, etc), dress nicely that suits your body type, etc. Paying attention to your appearance will give you more confidence. Smile... it goes a long way. Go see a councillor (your school, college, church, etc) must have someone you can talk to, they'll be more help than internet people. Listen to music you like, it'll put you in a better state of mind. I'm sure you're exaggerating... think of all the things you're grateful for. You'll be fine :)

Answer 3

"People don't like being told their not good enough. Looks don't count. The heart and personality do." I'm going by that. It totally works.

"How you view you is how people view you." From some woman. I forgot. I see myself as me being happy and comfortable with my life and that's what people see of me. If you think you're ugly ( which I'm in doubt about), then people would see you as ugly. If you see yourself as the beautiful person you are, people would come around and see you for that beautiful person you really are.

Just be yourself. Someone out there would love to be your friend and can talk to you about anything. Ignore all the negative comments, and think positive. If you hurt yourself more, then there's a possibility that you can just disappear(I don't want you to just "disappear", ok?). It use to hurt me that I saw myself as someone who had an uneven nose kind of(I'm Asian). Then I stopped thinking about it, completely ignoring it. People started to stop looking it b/c I don't wiggle my nose that much. It annoyed me so much, but then I learned to ignore it too. Try telling yourself infront of the mirror 'Hi I'm (your name), I'm better than anyone else out there and I don't care what people think' everyday, like positive self talk.

Everyone has something to share with the world. If it's talent, it's talent. If it's beauty, it's beauty. Whatever it is, it is what it is. Just be yourself. Don't let people hold you down. Be the better person and "stand your ground"(As my tech teacher would say if a grizzly bear attacked us).

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Hello! God makes us all different in many ways and I have a heart for everyone! Please stop caring about what other people think, you need to stop that right here and now okay. Start living your life not everyone else's. We only have one life and it is short. I can remember when I use to feel as you do now and it was because of a man I was with for many years making me feel like I was no good and I beleived it forever. I wouldn't go outside either, I thought I was so ugly, that everyone hated me, they were laughing at me oh god you name it, after 11 years with this person I finally moved on and started to see little by little that I'm alright, everyone is human and should be treated fairly, it's okay to smile and laugh, I'm a little ugly but I'm free to go outside, ya so they called me this but that doesn't bother me, hey I kinda like myself. As the days go by things get better and better and they will for you to. You are a great person, please give people a chance and most of all give yourself a chance.

As long as you feel good about yourself and your heart is full of love have no worries, life is great!

God Bless and take care.

Answer 5

You should extend your question and put a picture up ;so I can see you. You can't be that bad looking. You have extremely bad self-esteem. You will find somebody. Try some of this dating online services. Be careful and Be honestly about yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Change your outlook. Gain some confidence. Believe it or not, that will make a difference. Just stop worrying about what other people think, it'll make everything easier. If you carry yourself with confidence, you can overcome.

Answer 7

who says you are ugly? you? or others? dont you know that you were made by the Almighty? and he made you....a miracle with so much love...how can you or anyone else call his creation ugly??? and why are you fixated on you outer looks....what your soul looks like is way more important and counts for more with good ppl too....be strong, have faith in yourself....the world is cruel and mean and ppl are ready tp get you on your knees....so why are you putting yourself down too??? get up and be proud of what God gave you!....stop feeling sorry for yourself and start with getting rid of ppl who are taking your confidence down....you will make good new friends if you get rid of the bad ones around you....and if you dont start changing you opinion about yourself then you will push ppl away with the 'im ugly and no body loves me' attitude....i know i sound mean but im saying this to burst your bubble....start loving yourself and others will love you...if you hate yourself then you will draw negative emotions and reactions from others too...

If you cant get out of this terrible self destructive cycle then go for some therapy.....you dont have to be psychotic to get help you know....dont be afraid...get some help and start living you life insteadof killing yourself with horrible thoughts everyday!

Good Luck and God bless!

Answer 8

Stop think of your self so negatively. Just stay positive and everything will workout sooner or later and you won't make friends with that attitude. And try to boost your low confidence you stupid freak.

Answer 9

Who has the right to decide what is beautiful? Stop overrating your cons & foucus on what is good about you. If it's that important start going to the gym & stuff. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Answer 10

You need to gain some confidence.. and you need to care about yourself before anyone else can.. Sounds like some counselling would help you with that.. Talk to you parents or an adult your trust!!