Been married for 5 years? 1 kid...3 yrs old. Never really been married. Got married for the wrong reasons. Do i stay and be miserable? Or do I leave respectfuly and try to find happiness elsewhere?
2007-02-22 12:37:50 · 21 answers · asked by anderb3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why in the world would you ask us this question? That makes no sense what so ever. This is your decision, but I will bet that your wife is no happier...perhaps it is time to sit down and have a good talk. You may find she wants out also. Good luck
2007-02-22 12:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that has ever been married has wanted to get out of it at some point. Take it from someone that is going thru a divorce-the grass is not always greener on the other side. Marriage is hard work. You owe it to each other to at least give it 100% and seek counseling. It takes 2 to make a marriage work and 2 to make it fail-no matter what the issue. You don't want to end up regretting that you did not try harder.
2007-02-22 20:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by autumn0253 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do everything you can to make it work, because you have a child. If you were so miserable and married for the wrong reasons what stopped you from leaving for the first two years of the marriage?
2007-02-22 20:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think hard and wise . If you are serious about this then you should make arrangements to be sure you have a place to stay and it is stable . Don't jump into a relationship so quickly . I think you should get her a I'm a sorry card and express how you feel and tell her you aren't as strong as you thought you were and to forgive you for giving up , but you need to be happy . Make sure your child understands that you will be leaving but you love him and you are sorry and you will be there no matter what . Make sure you do not forget to tell her thank you for being there for you and giving you a son . Let her know you love her but your not in love and your not happy . GOOD LUCK !!! You would be better off making yourself happy first before you love anyone else .
2007-02-22 20:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am facing the same thing. I am getting divorced. I married for the wrong reasons as well. 3 kids and 14 years latter we are going our separate ways. How I wish I had done it sooner. Respectfully talk to your wife and agree on joint custody of your child, he will still need both of you no matter what. The simpler the divorce the better. Good luck.
2007-02-22 21:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay and not be miserable. you chose to marry so you need to stick by your vows no matter what. Seek counseling and help for you and your marriage to try and work things out so that you are not so miserable and unhappy in your marriage. You can turn this marriage into a much better one if you choose to work at it together with your spouse.
2007-02-22 21:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
much of our unhappiness isn't really even about the other person its with us, we are unhappy with our own self. chances are u won't be any happier in the next relationship because this is basically all about u and your stuff. we some times have to reach deep inside ourselves before we blame it all on the other person in the marriage, as we are all responsible for our own happiness, no one can make us happy. if u have some issues why not talk it out with her first, as if she knows how u feel and why u are feeling like this maybe u both can make some changes, but chances are the problem lies with in u.
2007-02-22 20:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if ur not happy and u love her but ur not in love with her then i think that u should leave. and dont just stay in it for the childs sake b/c children can sense when something is wrong and it will only make it worse. i know cuz my son is 13 months and when me and my husband argue around him then he gets upset. if u ever need an open ear if u do decide to leave then email me @ momlovesmile@yahoo.com
2007-02-22 21:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by hottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the first step is ALWAYS talking to your partner about why it isn't working. Most often it's just a phase and you'll work it out and be stronger for it.
However, if either of you feel that there is no resolution then it's time for a trial seperation and see if it's really what you want.
2007-02-22 20:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by ukshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first why did you guys get married? whats the reason??? IF its because of your differences that you are feeling this way try to work things out... and if your marriage was because you have kids then thats a very different topic... Its better for the kid to have a dad, but its not good for the kid too that he/she saw her/his mom and dad fighting all the time...
2007-02-22 20:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Cess B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋