my friend is pregnant, & she wants to know how to lose the baby?

Question

she is almost 6months
her mom still can tell she's pregnant
and if her mom finds out she will be sent away from everyone in her family
please someone help me

Answer 1

6 months???!!! It's a little late now for an abortion. She must tell her family. Its time for her to GROW UP. She got herself into this situation now she needs to THINK OF THE CHILD and what is best for that baby and stop being so selfish.

Answer 2

She is at a point where she can't "loose" the baby. If she is almost 6 months then she has already gone over the point where she could have had a late term abortion. It is illegal in the U.S. for any doctor to preform an aborton after 22 weeks...The case of the 21 week "peemie" is why. Because at 22 weeks a fetus is "viable" and if aborted and still alive it would be a BORN human and any intervention by doctor or staff to end that life IS murder. Your friend will just have to wait until she delivers and can put the baby up for adoption.

And Martin you are wrong. Abortions past the 22nd week are illegal. Late term abortions are STILL legal in all U.S. States

Answer 3

Your friend needs some professional guidance, more than the advice of just friends and others. There are a number of organizations ranging the full gamut from abortion to adoption to full-term pregnancy that can help.

Open your phone book. Look up Abortion or Abortion Alternatives or Adoption. There are pregnancy counseling centers and hotlines in nearly every town who can, anonmously, put you in touch with a professional who has been down this road before.

Don't do something stupid, like hop down stairs or find someone in an alley or something. These can have long term effects on your physical and mental health and probably won't work.

If your friend is too afraid to contact these groups, you should contact them on her behalf and at least hear what they have to say.

Please, get professional assistance now.

btw: the legal status of a 'late term' abortion varies from state to state--in some it is illegal, and in others it is not. A professional can give you more advice on this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Late-term_abortion

Answer 4

please try to be a support to your friend- losing her baby- or abortion is not the answer. I counsel girls/women that are pregnant and the majority of them feel the same way, and then they tell their parents and they are much more supportive than the girls thought they would be. That baby she is carrying is growing- and developing but it is a living child. Did you hear about that baby that was born at 22 weeks? Small but survived. You cannot make something alive that is not already alive. Yes, the medical tech, was helpful in keeping the baby alive, it was alive already. Tell your friend to make an appt at a nearby pregnancy help clinic- believe me abortion is not the easy fix that people say it is- she will never forget taking the life of the child. How about adoption? She will remember giving birth.

Answer 5

Abortion is not an option, it is way to late for that. Abortion is only an option when the fetus is less than three months old. At this point anything you do to that baby is considered murder. Besides just thinking that is plain wrong. She cares more about being sent away than the life of her baby? You as a friend should really talk to her and make her realize what she is thinking of doing. Most girls who have an abortion regret it for the rest of their life.

Answer 6

I know this has to be a very hard time for her and she is scared. I am pregnant right now with my second baby and am due any day. Something you want your friend to understand is that she should not make her decision based on fear, but should think about and consider all of her options before deciding. There is a place on the internet called CareNet. Their web address is http://www.care-net.org/ and a number she can call is 1-800-395-HELP. They have counselors who can help your friend make an informed decision. Something like this can affect the rest of her life and she needs to make sure the decision she makes is not just because of her family but what is best for her. Another web sight you might want to show her is here at http://standupgirl.com/web/index.php?option=com_content&task=blogcategory&id=91&Itemid=94
Hope everything turns out well. I'll be praying for you and your friend.

Answer 7

Sorry but it's too late for her to have an abortion. It's illegal.

The only choices she has are to give her baby up for adoption or start learning how to be a parent to her child. Either way she going to need to talk to her parents, and start looking into her options NOW.

Please don't let her try and do anything to lose the baby. She will end up hurting herself. There is nothing that she can do that doesn't put her own life at risk.

Answer 8

Well for one she was stupid to try and keep it from her parents.. It is now to late in the pregnancy for an abortion.. If she tries "to loose" the baby she may end up doing more damage to herself.. And besides to much stimuli as far along as she is could cause her to go into preterm labor, and then she would have no choice but to tell her parents. Someone has to pick up the hospital bill... Her only real option is to come out and tell them.. There are people who would be willing to adopt the baby, or something neither of you would expect her parents may be willing to help her with the baby..

Answer 9

This is too brutal for words. Babies at 6 months can survive early birth. This can't be the only option!!!! Putting aside her fear, does she want her baby? Then she should be willing to fight for her baby. Everything will work out. Babies have a powerful effect on people--they can melt the hardest of hearts and bring so much love. Adoption is a much better option, in my opinion, than killing the baby. There are SOOOO many people out there who wish they could have a baby, but can't. She should give her baby a chance.

Answer 10

Please tell her to think about this! That is a human life inside her. She needs to talk to her parents about this... it's a big deal. There are many options for her other than what you are proposing. There are so many people that would love to adopt a baby and there are many hospitals and churches where you can drop off the baby with no questions asked and they will take it from there. Please understand that is also very dangerous to her and she would be putting her life and the life of this child at risk! It will be okay... she can get through this. Do the right thing!