Also, how does one overcome this cycle?
2007-02-22 12:13:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
depending on the relationship, sometimes people dont believe in themselves and a certain someone does believe in them and they sort of feed off of that. Also sometimes people put the other person on a pedestal. like they are really great or something. i mean infatuation basically. it is a very unhealthy practice. people tend to use other people to feel voids in their life but what they dont realize is that love is between two whole individuals not two halfs. that is what makes relationships work anyway.
you can over come the cycle by paying close attention to your feelings and remembering reality. adn dont ever put them on a pedestal. no one is better than you and you are better than no one. love is for the one who works with who you already are not who they make you.
2007-02-22 12:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by summer girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The popular belief is that the person "attaching" has a very low self-esteem. He/She can't believe they have value unless they are in a relationship (which provides validation for them that they must be worthwhile, otherwise who'd want to be involved with them). Overcoming this problem begins by understanding that being in ANY relationship so as not to be alone is not always a good thing. Working on building one's own self esteem (through personal achievements, like good grades, or developing a talent) can help. Also, if one has a good support group, like friends or family, to talk with it's also helpful. Sometimes, therapy may be an option, especially if the situation recurs and the "attaching" personality can't seem to stop him/herself.
2007-02-22 20:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by mjkl1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the need to be needed or the need to be attached..the need to be in a relationship....if you are not good at being a single this is what happens...or at least what happened to me.....and i thought this person was perfect...everything they did and said made perfect sense and as time passed i started realising what a load of crap i got myself into just because I WANTED TO see things in a certain way....
if you truly want to get out of this cycle you need to look at the relationship as an outsider and be objective....use your head 80% and your heart 20%....or it could lead you to some severe heartbreak!
2007-02-22 21:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self esteem or insecurity. Remember, you don't need a man to tell you what you're worth. The right one will come naturally. Clinging on and being desperate may drive him away.
2007-02-22 20:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Too soon" is a subjective judgement. As to why you are becoming attached sooner than you want to, it has to do with a biological bonding mechanism that kicks in when you are sexually intimate with another. I am assuming you are having sex with the object of attachment, in which case the solution to your dilemma is to avoid sex except with someone you want to bond with.
2007-02-22 20:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by TicK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desperation....
I think people do this because they don't like to be single, it needs to be overcome by being happy with yourself and knowing that being 'just you' is ok
2007-02-22 20:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity and inexperience mixed with neediness cause one to fall in love without much encouragement.
Know you are lovable, examine your feelings and never again settle just to have someone, anyone.
2007-02-22 20:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEEDS, physical and emotional
getting them met might help maintain that cycle
2007-02-22 20:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too attached... well... you need your space and he/she need his/hers. â¥
2007-02-22 20:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by wind it up 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋