what do i do?

Question

i have twins who are 4 months old and their driveing me nuts im home alone with them all day and they both want to eat at the same time i obviously cant hol both of them and both bottles so i hold one while the other gets proped up with a bottle and i switch who gets held each feeding anyways their bnew favorite thing is to try to hold the bottle and no matter if im holding them or if their down they always kno0ck the bottle out of thier mouths then they scream i get so frustrated with them some times theyll knock it out 3 or 4v times them wont calm down while they have the bottle and knock it out again i get so frustrated that i have to let them both cry untill i calm down it is verry hard to hear 2 babies screaming for their food and only haveing enough hands to take care of one at atime what do i do to help them keep their bottles

Answer 1

I assume you have no resources to hire help. Otherwise you would not be asking this question.

Maybe you should restraine the bottle up next to the crib with electric tape orsomething. Right above the child so that he can choose to suck it or not. You know how hamsters have there bottle up side down and does not drip. But when ther hungry they just suck. Incorporate that same method in feeding your children. But of course you will have to make it close enough. Then you can switch off one to the crib and one to your arms. In order that they both get your motherly attention.

Good luck!!!Your a vary lucky women, whether youbelieve it or not.

Answer 2

I have 7 month old twins, and I know the frustration. To feed my babies at the same time, I put them in their highchairs (which recline - you can also use bouncy seats or car seats) and hold both bottles at once, one hand for each baby.

Sometimes I prop the bottles with a large blanket on the baby's lap. Using a large blanket is key because it keeps the bottle in place better.

It is better to have both babies in seats so you have your hands free. It is really hard to hold one and try to feed the other at the same time. I know it seems more "loving" to hold the baby, but when it's all said and done, what the baby really wants is to be fed, and everyone is happier when you acheive that goal. Plus, since you are home with them all day, there is plenty of time for holding, love and cuddles.

I hope that helps!

BTW, you don't need to hire help. I do it all myself and the older they get, the easier it is. Once you into a routine and figure out how to do things, it's a breeze!

Answer 3

Keep in mind that a crying baby is not neccessarily hungry. They could be:

tired
dirty
bored
in pain

As far as propping goes, well at 4 months they have no coordination at all. Arms tend to flail about and they still can't realize that turning the head results in bottle falling. Whatever you do DO NOT SECURE THE BOTTLE IN PLACE. The bottle needs to be able to fall when the baby twists thier head or else they could drown or suffocate from excess milk. Also, monitor them carefully when propping as they could also drown if they fall asleep.

I know that crying is annoying but you just have to treat it as thier way of asking for help. They are completely helpless and need you. Try not to get frustrated. What I do to calm down is to interpret any crying as if my daughter was saying "I'm sorry, help"

Answer 4

I feel for you - My oldest daughter was 2 when I gave birth to twins. Is there anyone who can help you out? I had my Mother-in-law and my little 13 year old babysitter - I wouldn't have been able to do it without them. Everyone thinks it's so magical to have twins - yeah magical and very, very difficult!!! Take heart, before you know it they'll be done with bottles and sitting at the table eating with you - it won't be this hard forever - it does get easier.
I have a suggestion for the feeding - I used to sit on the floor with both babies - one laying on each side of me, and feed them both their bottle, you can prop their heads up a little on a pillow. You could also get one of those big boppy pillows (the ones for breastfeeding) and lay both babies in the center of the boppy - kind of sitting up a little - then both hands are free - one for each bottle. At night I would sit with my legs kind of criss-crossed and put a baby in each leg - with their heads resting on the inside of each knee - again 2 free hands - 1 for each bottle. Keep in mind that babies are demanding especially when they are hungry - and you have 2!! Crying won't hurt them, you are only 1 person and you are doing a great job!!! Try your best to relax and enjoy them.

Answer 5

I haven't had twins but I have had 7 babies, and my advice to you would be to continue alternating who you give the attention to first, but while you are concentrating COMPLETELY on the first baby, put the second baby in her crib, close the door, and ignore her crying. It's not that long, only like 10 or 20 minutes to feed the one, right? The other can cry for that long with no ill effects whatsoever. THEN you switch--put the full one in the crib, even if she cries, and give your full attention to the other.

Answer 6

If you can afford it...hire in help...or feed one earlier than the other...so they both get held and they both get fed.

I know it's frustrating mamm...I have just ONE four month old and he's a handful...the only way I've stayed sane is to go back to work!

Good luck...get help!!