I have come to doubt the fact that a guy and a girl can have a strictly platonic relationship, meaning no thoughts of any intimate relationship with one another, having enter their minds.
2007-02-22 11:38:53 · 16 answers · asked by graduate_boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, even if there is zero attraction the opposite sex thing still keeps it from being like a normal same sex friendship. And usually one of the people involved wishes it wasn't a just friends thing.
2007-02-22 11:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think you can. At least from my side of it... maybe not the guys? I don't know. But i have quite a few guy friends that are strictly platonic relationships. I mean i think that the thought always crosses your mind.."would we work together?" but there's LOTS of times that the answer is a definite NO and then the thought never comes back.
2007-02-22 11:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by cm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not possible. I enter, as evidence, a portion of the script from the great Rob Reiner classic, "When Harry Met Sally":
Harry: You're a very attractive person.
Sally: Thank you.
Harry: Amanda never said how attractive you were.
Sally: Well may be she doesn't think I'm attractive.
Harry: I don't think it's a matter of opinion, empirically you are attractive.
Sally: Amanda is my friend.
Harry: So?
Sally: So you're going with her.
Harry: So?
Sally: So you're coming on to me!
Harry: No I wasn't. What?
Harry: Can't a man say a woman is attractive without it being a come-on? Alright, alright, let's just say just for the sake of argument that it WAS a come-on. What do you want me to do about it? I take it back, ok? I take it back.
Sally: You can't take it back.
Harry: Why not?
Sally: Because it's already out there.
Harry: Oh geez, what are we suppose to do, call the cops? It's already out there.
Sally: Just let it lie, ok?
Harry: Great! Let it lie. That's my policy. That's what I always say, let it lie. Wanna spend the night at a motel? See what I did? I didn't let it lie.
Sally: Harry.
Harry: I said I wouldn't and I didn't.
Sally: Harry.
Harry: I went the other way.
Sally: Harry.
Harry: What?
Sally: We are just going to be friends, ok?
Harry: Great! Friends! It's the best thing.
Harry: You realize of course that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is... and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form, is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true, I have a number of men friends and there's is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman he finds attractive, he always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: Nuh, you pretty much wanna nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: Guess not.
2007-02-22 11:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, a few actually. I tend to get along much better with guys, but ive been in a committed relationship for 8 years. I guess if I were single it could be different, but I don't know, it would be like kissing a cousin i think. eck.
2016-05-24 00:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one with a girl that everyone thinks I'm having an affair with. She's more like a sister to me. It just so happens that she's not my type of girl anyway. I actually spent some quality time at her flat once where she got tipsy on wine and finally fell asleep with her head on my lap. I gently slipped myself out, found a blanket for her and left. I think she respected me more for not taking advantage of her in that state...at least I hope so.
2007-02-22 11:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Boys and girls are best friends all the time. Just think of the person as a friend, or a good friend, and only that. You'll be surprised when you have a lot of friends of the opposite sex and not have feelings for them.
2007-02-22 11:45:06 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have more male friends than female friends and yes they are all platonic. Two of my friends are gay and great to go shopping with. None of my friends or I have entered into any other relationship other than friends most of them are married and so am I.
2007-02-22 11:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by ang_23el 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of my best friends is a female. She has an S.O. and is not interested in men anyway. I usually have lots of female friends and that's all we are. Why let something as common and coarse as sex ruin a good relationship. We are humans after all, we are supposed to be able to control our impulses. And that's not that hard to do.
2007-02-22 11:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Friends are friends, lovers are lovers the boundary between the two should not be crossed. You can however be friends with a lover but not the other way round.
2007-02-22 11:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I bet it's very possible. But you would need to find two very mature, intelligent people for such a thing to happen, and it would take a lot of effort.
2007-02-22 11:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋