So girls, why do YOU think guys cheat? And I'd like to hear something other than "because they're dogs & pigs"

Question

If you give us some serious insight and logic...not average girl speak...maybe something you say here might make us think a little more about not doing.

Answer 1

men cheat because "the other woman" makes them feel that excitement again. they make them feel wanted, attractive, needed
it gives them the "thrill" you get when you first find someone.
when its new the sex is good, the talking is good because you are just getting to know the person, there are surprises (which are usually not there if you have been together a while)
there is also the "suspense" in this relationship because it is always "what if she catches us" or "what if someone sees us together".
and sorry to say this but it works this way for the women too.
at some point you decide that you like the way this other person makes you feel and if you are not very careful it will turn into an affair.
while i don't condone it, this is the way it is.

Answer 2

I answered almost the same question from a guy the other day. I gave him my true thoughts, and I'll give you the same.

It's not just guys, girls do too. Guys sometimes don't have enough eyes for all of us. The like someone, and then they like someone else better, and don't want ot hurt your feelings.

Some guys don't cheat. Some love you for you, or tell you to your face that they don't, trying not to hurt your feelings, but knowing that anyway else could hurt worse. I guess I wouldn't know. I've never had a boyfriend, I wonder the same things somedays, and always come up with an answer or two.

It's funny how a simple question can reveal your life. Your boyfriend, or husband cheated on you. You still love him, deep in your heart, but you can't trust him. You miss him, he probably doesn't miss you. If that's how it went, then I'm very sorry, if it isn't, then that's just that.

Answer 3

Society has long dictated that men should be “studs” while remaining “happily married”. This oxymoronical viewpoint is apparently spoken from the same side of the mouth that says: “A man is a playboy (who is loved and chased by women a la George Clooney, after an airing of the Oscars), but any woman who sleeps with—or even just pursues—multiple sexual partners is a slut, a whore, a *****, a tramp, etc. Obviously, men concoct these views. Men that, if they had their way, would have women lie down as whores, and rise in their post-coital afterglow as virgins.

So why do they do it? Let's spare ourselved the bullshit of "driven by primal instincts to sire children and perpetuate the species." Let’s look at the process: He did the initial work, and craftily coerced you into bed. Now that he’s had you, there is no reason to go that extra mile… until, of course, he wants you again (Hence, we have flower shops strategically located at airports and shopping malls, and still others within a stone’s throw of friendly neighborhood bars.) Married or single women that are being cheated on are quietly "told" to wait, and feel grateful that he even allowed them to sleep with him in the first place; wait contentedly until their services are again required.

In truth, women should STOP the cycle and start taking control of these hypocritical, worthless cheaters.

Answer 4

i believe they cheat because there are some troubles in the marriage, and they weren't worked out, so when they met the other woman, an emotional affair began, and he carried it past the limit, but he never bothered to seek therapy. never sat down and really talked to her. think men cheat because they are trying to avoid some kind of pain they are feeling, and they think by going outside the marriage and leaving the wife, their life will change, but in reality nothing changes, because whenever the honeymoon stage ends with the other woman he again will find himself back in the same unhappy rut. had he just stayed in his marriage he would have been able to figure it out, and would have learned some lessons, but by leaving he is showing his immaturity, showing he can't cut it when problems arise. but he will have the same if not worse problems with the other woman once the ink is dry on the divorce papers. if the wife only knew what her future was she would sit down and communicate, even if she was hurt, she would do all she could to save her marriage. but he would rather go cheat, and leave. sure it is always exciting to begin a new relationship, get a younger woman, a slimmer one, but that's just shallow stuff, she will not be any better than what u got now, as time goes on.

Answer 5

People cheat because they can. That's it - bottom line.Your question asked us girl's why we think guy's do it I of course don't think the problem lies just within men.Women do it everyday as well....but a few reason's why people do it are Selfishness, immature People want their cake and to eat it too,Rather than being straight with the one their with,they cheat so they don't have to deal with confrontation,they are not satisfied in their relationship,Another is lack of self respect on the part of that person cheating and a lack of respect for that person they are cheating on. Also believe it or not,some people cheat to get caught.In there mind it is their way to get out of a relationship or even,as absurd as it sounds,to strengthen the existing relationship with the person they are cheating on. One thing I do know is that those who choose to cheat,find it easier and easier to do it the more they do it.Insecurities.So many different answers to this question, and none of them are right or wrong.One argument that anyone has yet to suggest in this thread is that of genetics. There are some scientists who whole-heartedly believe that we as a species are physically designed to "cheat" or have multiple sexual relationships. Look it up some time, some of the evidence is pretty compelling.I'm not so sure I'm totally convinced, but it's an interesting viewpoint nonetheless.People cheat because it is in them, it is a part of who they are, just like the color of their hair. They cheat and ruin families because they never love others as much as they love themselves. Their love of self outweighs all love of others. (at least, in my opinion)

Answer 6

I think it's commitment....

I think now a day men are under extreme pressure..
I think they really don't know why they do it...because some walk away from what some men only dream about having..

I have known men I know were not pigs...but very very good guys...they just could not commit.

.I have no children and they got..SEX SEX




K...I re-thought this question...I know what it is..

They don't want to be responsible anymore....they are sick of being responsible...
Men are born with knowing how to commit.

They don't even leave their wives for another women{although it may look like it}

they don't leave because the women did anything wrong either...

they don't even leave or cheat because they don't love them anymore..
they do it out of PURE selfishness....
They are tried of being RESPONSIBLE.
Right?

Answer 7

ah, my ex boyfriend was so perfect! He was so kind and well perfect! But I still got cheated on, at heart I know he is a good guy, I think guys cheat because...well because it's just their flirty nature! It's not like he was hiding her for years and lying to me to see her, I forgave him because you can't help where your heart leads you next ya know? Anyways I think it's because guys really do see good in a lot of girls at once and girls think the relationships are a lot more serious then it really is, hope I didn't sound like an average girl ^_~

Answer 8

Because they think the grass is greener elsewhere (it isn't), because of the thrill of the forbidden, because it reaffirms their manhood (they have ego issues, usually), and makes them think--"yep, all women really DO want me, I am a stud!"

Because they don't foresee the consequences of their actions...that they lose the current partner, and a pattern will emerge to keep them from EVER being happy.
New woman, cheat, break up, etc, etc ad nauseum.

Answer 9

Men that cheat are nothing more then little boys in men's bodies..

Men cheat usually because they have a "need" to conquer something new, its a quest.. , the hunt, etc.. Men are very visual , and so usually they have more of a physical, attraction , to someone , rather then an emotional attraction which is usually why women cheat..

Men that cheat lack morals, values, and are liars, and cant keep to promises they make, they lack honor, and a lack of respect not only for themselves but for others..

Men that cheat only live by the vows, and promises they make only when its convient to them...

Answer 10

I believe men cheat because their needs aren't being met by their significant other. I don't just mean sex either. A man wants to be a man, not nagged at, belittled or disrespected and further more, they want to be admired and have a woman take interest in them. I feel many women don't understand men, they have basic needs that are so simple and yet women tend to beat them into submission to the point of finding someone else who will meet and satisfy those needs.