My best friend and I have been cool for going on 10 years but I just ended the friendship yesterday. For the past 2 years she has been mistreating her son, my godson. She has 2 children who are both my godchildren and she treats her daughter like she can do no wrong. I have tried to talk to her about the things she has been doing but she just won't stop. Yesterday she told me she no longer wanted him at all because he cries too much. I just calmly let her know that I can't be friends with anyone who does this to a inocent child, I am hurt by this but I just wanna know am I wrong for my actions. Somebody help!!!!
2007-02-22 11:31:06 · 24 answers · asked by JaNelle M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Instead of ending the friendship, you should have suggested counseling. Maybe she's having trouble as a mother? Maybe she just doesn't know what to do? Talk to her and apologize and say that you're concerned about her and her son and that you want to help. She might not be receptive at all, but at least you tried. You should also talk to the kid if you get the chance.
2007-02-22 11:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong but you have to decide for yourself if you are right.
I must say though who wouldn't want their own child? That's just crazy! You should calmly explain to her why you cut the relationship. And if your willing you two can be friends again. But I must add I would tell her to spend quality time with her children for a couple of weeks before giving me a ring. Hope I helped and I hope you work things out. Best of luck!
2007-02-22 11:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Jess ♥ I dream, I wish, I love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ending a long friendship may be hard but in the long run it can be the best thing ou can do. Child abuse and child neglect is a big problem in this country that needs to be adressed. If she's your "friend" and doesn't want to hear your concerns well then there's your answer
2007-02-22 11:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by superheroe1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did the right thing, but I can't blame you. It is much easier to pretend the problem doesn't exist when you aren't around it all the time. I can't say as though I know the 'right' thing to do, but I think you should stay around if only for the reason that the child will need someone to turn to in the future.
I hope this helps.
2007-02-22 11:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by birdie6089 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NO such thing as freinds in this world, belive this, ppl go their own way, ppl use eachother, u become too soft & freindly then ppl will walk over ya , its every human for him/herself these days, ppl only be there if they want something, somethign to gain, if ur kids then fair enough but we humans tend to be selfish, we take advantage of ppl's good nature, sadly thats human nature and reality, there is an ancient saying that one day a person can be ur BEST MATE, the next that person can be ur EMEMY, remember this, cant trust no1, just u and ur family, its muuch more simplier and peaceful, BUT ppl will realise in time, mark ma words.
2007-02-22 11:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are important and someone needs to be there for them; however, if your friend isn't going to listen to you, it will become a very hard situation for you. You have no legal rights, although there could be legal ramifications if she abuses him somehow. If you are uncomfortable with the relationship and how she treats them, and you have already said your peace...then now you have to have peace of mind that you also have to take care of yourself! I think you did the right thing.
2007-02-22 11:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Randy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she mistreat her son? Does he remind her of a lost father, or something like that? You probably should tell her again, (after fixing friendship) what you think, and that you would like to know why she does it. Harsh, but 10 years will probably be okay.
2007-02-22 11:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are wrong, this is your godson if you don't advocate for him then he will have no one. the abuse may get worse. Friendships comes with ups and downs we have to aceppt people for who they are not what we want them to be. her actions are a cry for help, maybe she feels overwhelmed. have her look into some counseling, therapy or look into raising your godson but what ever you do, whether its be her friend or not dont desert your godson
2007-02-22 11:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by sayj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, u were not wrong by trying to help. Yes u were by deciding to run away. If u're her friend, u always have to be there. Maybe the child reminds her of something in her past....maybe. But she need you to keep her in check....what if she decides to get rid of the child. Mama, pls, "Do the right thing" like spike lee
2007-02-22 11:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Blak Jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats f**ked up, really messed up. children arent toys that you can give away because you dont wan't them. it just makes me angry
if she was serious then i agree you should stick around for the childs sake and make sure he is getting proper care.
make sure she is serious though. children can be tough sometimes (although i dont have any, and im only 20, so i am not talking from expirence) and she may have said that but not really meant it. similiar to me telling a friend im going to kill him because he is uses glitches and cheap plays to win madden games. i am not really going kill him, i am only expressing frustration
2007-02-22 11:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋