Ok, About a year ago I broke up with my first gf (Im 21 now, and in university). She loved me very much in the short 7 months we were together. However, that she was my first gf I never believed it could last- after all thats what my friends told me. So I fell into it, and broke up with her.She was devastated, I have recently just found out how so.
But anyways about 6 weeks ago she moved across the country with her new bf, for 8 months. I went to visit her before she left and we had some real good time together. ANd basically we told each other how we still had feelings for each other. She cried in my arms the night before she left on the beach. Saying how she wished I would have told her a week earlier.
But my question. We have been talking as much as she can. I have to call her at work, and she dosent like using her bf's phone(she is currently without a phone). But, as much as I know she is a honest girl I question if she is telling me the truth.
2007-02-22 11:18:14 · 11 answers · asked by michael b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is a very good girl, and I never knew her to lie. Not only to me, but to anyone. So, being that I am still very heartbroken I am really trying to analyze the situation. I really think that she might be the one for me. However it was just the right person wrong time. Everyone says that if she is still talking to me, she must still like me. Does this make sense? Or do you think it is more likely she dosent wanna hurt me? Just looking for opinions, if anyone ever read this far.
Its funny she still has me as her #1 friend on myspace, and her new bf as #2. I know it is childish, but the thought is a bit comforting. P.S. if it helps any, I know she loved me more than her current bf. She said she never loved anyone like me. I know she is attracted to me much more physically, I am just not sure emotionally. ANy thoughts?
2007-02-22 11:22:41 · update #1
I think, you should do what you've been wanting to do all along. Start off clean, go out, and experience relationships. If after 3-4 years and 5-6 relationships you still feel that she was "the one", hats off to you - contact her and see where it takes you. But right now, you are both young and inexperienced. If you want to be together, there's nothing wrong with that - but then insist on BEING together. Settling on this half-a** crap will only lead to more heartbreak and pain. If you ask her to get back with you, and she chooses to stay with her new b/f - here is your answer. Sometimes, things seem more... well... thrilling when you're longing for something you seemingly can't have; once you have that, it will not be so thrilling anymore. Without first-hand experience, it can be difficult to distinguish where thrill ends and deep love begins. Best advice I can give you - ask her to choose; if she chooses him, then move on, let yourself heal, and look for other options. There's ALWAYS more fish in the sea.
P.S. I don't exactly believe that you broke up with her just because your friends told you so. Obviously, something didn't "feel" right to you. It's ok if you don't know what this "something" is, but don't ignore your gut feelings. If you dig deep enough, I bet you it's possible to find the reason why it didn't feel right - practice your introspective skills, learn your lessons, give it some thought. Once the dust settles, you might be able to gain some valuable insights from this experience.
2007-02-22 11:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do not listen to your friends anymore. Any guy who tells you to break up with your girlfriend without a valid reason, just wants you to be free to hang out with him. Second, if she has not left her current boyfriend yet, you need to back off. Let her think. You hurt her and she's probably scared to let that happen again. All you can do is let her know that you are there and ready for a relationship and will not hurt her again. If she still doesn't leave her boyfriend, then it wasn't meant to be. At least you'll have learned something that will help you in your future relationships. If she does leave him, then I wish you the best.
2007-02-22 19:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by M.P.H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be confused with everything - not only her feelings for you. Making a move cross country is scary enough especially when you do it with someone you've been with less than year, and while you still harbor feelings for your ex.
She probably feels at home with you and her feelings for you could be both genuine in the fact that she misses you and still has feelings for you, or the could be mixed with homesickness from moving.
Take it slowly and don't get your hopes up after all she did move across country with this guy so she must care for him too.
2007-02-22 19:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if it's meant to be then her boyfriend will be history soon...But then again you did break her heart out of no where, so I don't blame her if she didn't want to get back together with you. You're a moron for listening to your friends, I would grow up first and then find a relationship. I think that you should leave her alone, you're too late. Let her call you if it's meant to be, but she's in a relationship so leave her alone.
2007-02-22 19:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if a woman truly loves a man she would 1. Never have left and went with this guy. 2. Couldn't lay down with this guy. 3. Wouldnt play this game. And would just come running back to you.
2007-02-22 19:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ever heard the saying you don't know what you got untill its gone? Well shes gone and now what are you gonna do to get her back? I have an idea tell her how much you love her and how much you want her to be in her life forever and how much you want her to be with you and how you would love to marry her..
2007-02-22 19:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would all depend on if she has lied about things like this in the past.has she?if so ur out of luck shes prolly lyin.she hasnt?then she prolly is tellim the truth be thought ful and make arange ments and go see her and really find out...she may still love you.i think she does
2007-02-22 19:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is living with her bf... you should leave her alone. If she wants something, she needs to get out of that relationship first.
2007-02-22 19:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by mydds07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is in a serious relationship with this new guy, that's why you have to talk to her at work.
2007-02-22 19:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you get a gut feeling that your being tricked then use common sense, if not then take the plunge, tell her that u love her, if u do anyway
2007-02-22 19:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Reeses' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋