say to her, she is dying of cancer, they say she may have two weeks left.
2007-02-22 11:07:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
just go over and talk with her/him so she/he doesn;t feel alone
2007-02-22 11:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since I am guessing this is an old neighbor, and has lived a good life, you should go over their with these cookies/brownies. Talk to her, if she is well enough,and here about her life. I'm sure she has some amazing stories she would love to share with you. If she isn't well enough, just go over, and tell her that you care about her. Also if you want to, help her out, clean a little, have the cookies/brownies together, ask if she needs anything just to call, since you are right by her. Just let her know you care, no matter what!
2007-02-22 19:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very thoughtful. Many times people avoid someone who is dying because they are unsure of what to say, or are uncomfortble. Bravo to you for being such a caring neighbor.
Sometimes cancer patients do not have a lot of appetite, so she may not feel up to eating cookies or brownies. Your presence is the nicest gift you can give her. If you want to bring something, bring a small flower in a vase to brighten her day.
Remember that you don't have to say a lot. Definitely avoid small talk; she doesn't have time for that. You can simply ask her how she is feeling, is she comfortable, and is there anything you can get for her. You can tell her you are glad you have her as your neighbor and mention something specific about her that you appreciate.
Good luck, and God bless.
2007-02-22 19:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would go over and sit with her; say hi, ask her if there's anything she needs or wants. Talk with her about what you usually talk about - if it's that pesky flickering street light, a shared tree between your yards, or that noisy guy who lives above her apartment...whatever.
Keep in mind, if she is so near the end of life, she may not be able to eat your tasty treats. But she's likely to enjoy your company, even if all you do is sit by her and hold her hand. It might not seem like much, but it can mean a whole lot.
2007-02-22 19:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally people who are in this condition enjoy any type of company. It may be as simple as sitting and watching birds at a feeder outside a window or fish swim in a tank. These are marvelous things to someone who may not be long for this world. They may wish to have you talk to them or just sit. The gift of your time is the most precious thing you can give so go see them today before its too late
2007-02-22 20:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For MERCY'S sake skip the brownies or cookies! Processed sugar FEEDS cancers! A fruit basket - wholesome natural fruit would be much better.
Read "A Cancer Battle Plan 6 strategies for beating cancer by a recovered 'hopeless case'" by Anne E Frahm wiht David J, Frahm
2007-02-22 20:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Monsheri 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are already friendly with her then conversation should be easy. if you havent seen her since you found out the news, simply offer to have a chat and a cuppa, tell her how sorry you are to hear the news of her illness and then move the conversation on, be guided by what she seems to want to talk about, and if this happens to be her impending death it wont be easy for you, but go with the flow, you need to be there for her, to talk, listen and share in any way u can. your neighbour is still the same person she was before, if you had things you liked to talk about then there is no reason she wont enjoy talking abou them now, your company and friendship will mean way more to her than what you have to say!
2007-02-22 19:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good grieving food for her family is lasagna. i think if you just went over there to say hi that would be good. youd be surprised how many people do not want to be around dying people. your presence would make her feel happier, that is, if she likes you and your desire to help her is sincere and not gossipy, ie some people just want to be meddling. i know thats not you, but some ppl are that way, which could make her more depressed. take care.
2007-02-22 19:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by wcarolinew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just act like there's nothing wrong. Carry on a normal conversation, and just talk!!!! Be careful not to mention anything that relates to death or the hospital. She needs all the help she can get right now.
2007-02-22 19:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by ☼SoccerGirl☼ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be supportive, let her know she will be missed. Bring her the cookies, let her know if she needs anything to call, and ask her if she would like you to have you visit again.
2007-02-22 19:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just get you bum over there and put your hand on hers. Ask her if you can read to her, or sit with her, that you just want to be with her for a while. You don't need a gift. Go now.
2007-02-22 19:12:54 · answer #11 · answered by Zeera 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋