My brother is a jerk. My husband an I got into an argument, and some person marital stuff, in the heat of the moment my husband called my dad, and left a message with my brother since my father was not home. My husband realized that he had made a mistake by getting my family involved, so I called my brother, and asked him to throw away the message. He said no problem. Since then, my brother has insisted that my dad call my husband 3 times in the last day, even though my husband told him he would just speak with him later. Then, my brother told my mom that she needed to get involved and call my husband. Believe me, you do not want they types of parents we have involved in your personal business. He still is insisting, even though my husband has said everything is okay, that they call. Now, the kicker, I have been nothing but nice to this guy. He's 28, lives off of my parents buck in SF, I have given him 2 cars, places to stay, clothes, wine, etc. He is a jerk. Opinions?
2007-02-22 11:02:23 · 6 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yell at your jerk of a husband first
and yes all brothers can be jerks
its a family thing
good luck
2007-02-22 11:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brother may be a jerk but your hubby shouldn't have made the call initially.
You call the family and tell them all is well. If they want to talk to the hubby so be it, he opened the can of worms. Let this be the lesson for next time.
2007-02-22 11:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this same place with my in laws. When you get married you leave them so to say that does not mean you still can't talk to them but your life is your's and your husbands not yours and their. In my own life we just moved on and we never looked back it has been over 9 years since we had anything to do with any of either of our families and life is great this way.
2007-02-22 11:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rotties World 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reminds me of my brother. He never really made anything of himself and liked to meddle in other people's drama. And then he committed suicide and we all get to feel guilty for the rest of our lives for resenting him and letting him think he was a burden to us. Seriously, tell your husband to keep his yap shut and look for the good in your family members.
2007-02-22 11:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems toxic and very self asorbed. you need to do what is necessary to cut him from your life (and seriously limit contact with your parents as well). what goes on between you and your husband should stay between you and your husband. family doesn't need to get involved unless both parties agree on such. but since your husband started it...leave it up to him to deal with it. lesson learned. if you don't want family involved...don't call them.
2007-02-22 11:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you never give him anything again. You need to tell him to mind his own business. Tell your parents everything is fine.
2007-02-22 11:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋