I've been involved with a married man for 4yrs. I've relly fallen in love with him. I feel that I've wasted my life on him so long that I'll commit suicide. How can I find a way to end this relationship and not feel this way?
2007-02-22 11:00:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to realize that you deserve better then this relationship could ever give you. You also have to be stronger then ever thought you could be.
He will probley tell you that things will change and that he will leave his wife like he has probley told you so many times before. He will beg and plead with you not to end it..after all he has exactly what some people want..sex without the commitment. He will say that he loves you more then anyone ever will and that things will be different if you just give him sometime..
You have to be strong enough to stand your ground and keep in the back of your mind that he will never belong to you completely. He will keep you where he has you by telling you what you not only want but need to hear at this point. Do not fall for this! This is a destructive relationship that will not end until you end it..you will only get hurt more and emotionally damaged. Do not sell your self respect out for someone that will never belong to you!
2007-02-22 11:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, how much do you really know this guy. Sometimes, we tend to want what we cant have but as soon as have it we no longer want it. The thing you need to understand is that you knew that he was married from the beginning. I am not one to judge, but considering the situation i am sure it was very hard not to fall in love with someone you have had in your life for four years. Also, you do not know how he really is in a relationship situation so you may not really like him if you were in a committed relationship with him. It could be a fantasy that you are in love with. You have to also think that you will not trust this man because he can be married and have an affair at the same time. There are men who are happy having their cake and eating it too. No woman can change these kind of men. You would always have to take it or leave it. Remember, that you are probably just lonely. You will find that guy who is meant to be for you because it will just feel right. In the meantime, take care of yourself and dont let anyone make you feel that your life is worthless. Hope this helps you. In the future, just know that the pain being involved with a married man is not worth it. If seeing him is causing you this much pain, then be strong and move on.
2007-02-22 19:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the idea that you talk about suicide concerns me and convinces me that no matter how you do it...you must break it off with this man. If you feel you have wasted your life on him, stop now so you can start living your life for yourself and someday with someone else who can fully appreciate and care for you...just you.
Any relationship is hard to end. Just realize that it has really gotten you nowhere and call it quits. Surround yourself with friends and any support you can. Seek out counseling as well.
Good luck.
2007-02-22 19:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you end the relationship you will only hurt for a little while, then you will heal. If you stay in it you will keep on hurting forever.
2007-02-22 20:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by LovinMeNow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away. sever contact. you will always be the other woman in his life. change your number, email address. or you can just confront him and tell him that you are not truely happy where you are because he is married.
2007-02-22 19:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋