How can emotional traumas lead to promiscuity?

Question

Have you ever known someone who has experienced some trauma, rejection, felt unloved or had low self esteem, or some other void which they unconsciously tried to fill up with sex? What makes someone on a subconscious level become promiscuos in an attempt to numb whatever pain they'd been experiencing? And how can someone overcome this cycle?

Answer 1

I have known lots of people who have done that. I think that sex fills a lot of needs, it can make you feel attractive, cared for, desired, it's a great distraction...
I think that many people don't put those two actions together; most people don't have the insight to their behavior to know that they are filling a void with sex.
The only thing that I can suggest to someone who is trying to change their behavior is to develop some insight into their actions- whether it is derived from counseling or maturing over time. I think the best thing they can do is develop the self esteem that took such a huge blow in the first place- they need to see that they are worthy of something more than being just a sexual partner.

Answer 2

People who have experienced a trauma want to be comforted and loved. When this does not happen, they may seek it out in the form of sex. Logistically speaking, sex has been associated with love and affection forever, so of course multiple partners may help an individual feel loved, comforted, and cared for by many. Overcoming this cycle requires the individual to seek help for their trauma, thus eventually finding other resources to find the support they need.

Answer 3

I have noticed this behavior and especially in girls who have been sexuality molested (which causes emotional trauma) I think it is two fold; a low self esteem as a result of the experience and a deep need for acceptance or approval sought an "easy" way through promiscuity. It is really sad, but I do think some people pull themselves out of the behavior. Anyway just my thoughts on it.

Answer 4

I beleive you, from what I have read about demonolgy and posession...there is much more than meets the eye. People today have a very narrow view of demonic posession.The world assumes that possesion means having a sullen "Uncle Fester" look babbling nonesense.Yet demons manifest in numerous ways that are very hard to discern. It is not to say that everyone is possessed,because that way our moral acountability and culpability is severely compromised.Every human being has the potential to do bad things with full intent.However opening oneself up to costant sinful behaviour brings about greater demonic influence and sexual promiscuity can be one of them. Psychologists actually say that sexual promiscuity is an in the moment kind of indulgence that produces short term 'delight' yet masks a deep emotional problem,it hurts the individual and also the people he is promiscuous with. I beleive oriental meditation can also leave people open to demonic posession.This is the same with using hallucinogens,drugs,spiritism and trying to aqcuire 'mind over matter' abilities which are common to Yoga,Buddhism,Taoism and primal Shamanism in advanced stages. Definitely physical prowess that these faiths espouse is undoubtedly good. However with deep attachment people are vulnerable to try attaining mental prowess by going through mind altering states,meditation techniques in a search for finding the 'Higher self'. Subequent professions of attaining such status through feats like astral projection and transmigration are all hallmarks of demonic pervasion and perversion of the mind.

Answer 5

Trauma can make a person feel so lonely, when they feel they are the only one that's been hurt. They turn to others to help themselves feel better, by filling that hole with anything that will take their mind off their trauma and their feelings of being the only one that hurts. People can display their grief in many ways, but most common is sex. Someone on the outside usually has to point this out to them.

Answer 6

It's not necessarily the sex itself that "numbs" things. It's the superficial, temporary feeling it gives a person, making them feel "loved" and "wanted".
I know of people both heterosexual AND homosexual who are dealing with this very thing. I, myself, dealt with it when I was a bit younger, constantly going from guy to guy, sleeping with each one. I realized, after time, that I had a void in my heart from my parents' divorce, back when I was 7 years old! Who the heck knew that something from SO long ago would affect me in such a way?
Needless to say, I am in a better place now--I am happliy married to the man of my dreams, and I have a beautiful 6-month-old daughter. Not to mention, I also have a very loving, forgiving Heavenly Father to whom I owe all the glory for the way my life looks now. I can only pray that the same will be said for other people who go through similar situations.

Answer 7

I think they are trying to fill a part of them that got lost when they had the bad experience. Sex is the closest physical act that you can experience with someone, and they are using it to feel loved and accepted again. It's not good because it can become an addiction, and become the ONLY way they will feel loved by anybody. They need to let out the emotions they are feeling from this trauma and release them, and let them go. Then realize that they are not in the past, they are in the present. They can't change the past, but they can change their present situation to mold what their future will be.And living a life of promiscuity will only change their future in a negative way, because they are searching in the wrong place for what they desire, which is love and acceptance. They need to seek this out in friendships, people who will understand them and be there for them and accept them for who they are, not for who they were and for the things they did in their past.

Answer 8

Many people become promiscous in response to trauma, especially sexual trauma in their early life.
The best way to stop this cycle is :
1. Recognize what is going on
2. Seek professional help
3. Ask for support from loved ones and family who are NOT involved in the original trauma
HTH
Good Luck

Answer 9

You counter it with positive energy and positive actions. Do something for somebody else that has been violated. Sometimes people lie to themselves about who they really are and cannot see the good in themselves or others, especially when they have no support group of good friends. This is a chance to change who your friends are. It is also a chance for discovering new talents and abilities. One has to have the will not to be negative about themselves and find a brighter tomorrow and not blame themselves for what someone else did. You can only be responsible for your own actions.

Answer 10

This is just one of the many ways humans try to compensate for not doing the right things that they know they should be doing. More like have to do because when we don't we suffer dearly. Denying the conscience out of fears is so disintegrating. this is compensated for in immediate-gratifying, "get these thoughts out of my mind", addictious, bad habits. But even though we suffer from the consequences of these actions, they're not as hurt-full as not pursuing the life we know we should.