Am I doing the right thing?

Question

I'm a first year at Trinity. I'm studying to be a surgeon one day. I'm very focused since I know what I want. I never settle for less of an A, even A- is not good enough for me. So I try to do my best at everything. This all sounds great, but then I isolate myself. I force myself to be so focused that I feel like I'm driving my friends away. Haha, the fact is I don't even have that many friends at all, and I'm isolating myself from the only friends that I have. I have a great family, and my best friends and my boyfriend are all back home. I think I need to stress that because I'm not a complete anti-social freak. I guess I'm just so ambitious and determined that I don't want anything to get in my way. Am I doing the right thing? Whenever I hang out with my friends at school, I feel like I'm taking out time that I could used for studying. I love studying, to be honest. I'm passionate about learning things. Learning makes me feel alive. But is this imbalance good?

Answer 1

I think you are doing the right thing. If you are happy that is all that matters.Keep your eye on the prize and you will succeed!

Answer 2

The truth is, if you enjoy studying and it is truly a pastime or hobby of yours (in addition to it's necessity), then there may not necessarily be any reason to change. You say you have good friends, family, and a boyfriend so I wouldn't even say you an imbalance. If you should start to feel lonely, stressed out, or depressed then you may need to reevaluate your priorities.

On the other hand, the friends and acquaitenances you make now are your colleagues and may be an important part of networking and resources one day. It wouldn't hurt to take some time out from studies to nurture this. It will keep you an interesting person... and you can absolutely learn ALOT from people and situations around you (not just from books). Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

You've heard the saying all work and no play? I certainly respect your responsibility though. You're in a great school and you're determined to make the best of it, which is very admirable. Your goals are set, you know what you want, there is NOTHING wrong with that at all. BUT be very cautious, you don't want to burn yourself out either. You should experience everything that school has to offer, including the extra-curricular activities. You'll make great friends and who knows? You may find alot of people just like yourself. I know I made some of the best friends I ever had in college. You don't want to ever have to look back and think, maybe I should have, or maybe I could have...No regrets ever.

Answer 4

I think it's great that you are focused and know exactly what you want out of life. You need balance in your life though, it can't be all about study etc. You need some time out for yourself, even if it's only a short time to relax and unwind, at least then when you go back to your books, you can focus that much better. Good luck with your studies!

Answer 5

Do not feel guilty about spending some time with friends! You need some balance in life. It is great that you want to do well and like to study, but spending some time doing other things is good for you. You can learn some things by spending time with people that are important for your education as well!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

i think you are doing something wrong. why not study with your friends? even if you are not taking the same classes together -study by their side - you study your thing and they study thier thing. show that you still want to be around them and want their company. if you keep pushing your friends away then when you get that job, you will keep doing the same thing. you will be too focused in your work you wont put any time aside for them. also when you get married, you will push your husband and children away. yes you will love them and im not disagreeing with that but it starts from when you are young and if do not fight this battle now it will stay with you forever.

Answer 8

On one hand, life balance is important to all people, but if studying is what makes you feel good, then you should study. I personally would want a surgeon who studied a little more.

Answer 9

you know what?you you dont find friends that want to work in groups , i am from Romania , and there we used to always learn together , find different things , doing usefull things for school in very funny and atractive way!im sorry for writing , i just moved in canada , and to be honest the most i miss the way that students used to spend their time there.here if i go out , exactly like you , i think im loosing time for nothing , there i was spending time having great memories , and learning things

Answer 10

It's just your personality, right now in high school everyone else makes B's for good grades and I make almost straight A's for me its more like a sense of achievement. I am anti-social but who ever said that was bad, and if you are, then if they can't deal with that they aren't your friends.