How can I stop myself from being irritated by my husband?

Question

He really p*sses me off by saying stupid things all the time, i can't be with him in the same room for more than 5 minutes before i get really irritated with him and call him a loser or yell at him. I try not to, but he just really really really irks me even though I know he's not trying to. I just can't stand him for some reason. How can I stop from being irritated or yelling?

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Answer 1

Judging by the wording of your question and additional details, YOU may well be the problem and not him...

Or, maybe you just don't love him anymore...maybe you never did.

Maybe you are feeling resentful about something. Take some time away to yourself, dig deep and think about the root cause of where your feelings are coming from. It worked for me!

Answer 2

If you are so unhappy and irritated by him, then why be with him? I think when you are married you should really try to work on the marriage so my real advice is that you should sit down (probably a couple of times) and talk to him about how you feel. It won't sink in the first time (you know men) lol Be honest, but don't attack him with your words. Tell him gently how you feel and that you hate feeling like that. I wish you the best of luck.
You can also talk to a doctor...it might be that you're going through something that a doctor can help you with. I don't know your age, how long you've been married and so forth, but I know that a marriage is sacred and both people should work at making it work for a lifetime.
or try yoga
:)

Answer 3

If you are serious about staying in the relationship, I'd make two suggestions.
First, you examine your behaviors and try to determine whether you act this way with others as well as your husband. If you do, I would recommend that you see your physician about antidepressants to help you get your anger and mood swings under control long enough for you to deal with the underlying issues that are causing your behaviors.
Second, I recommend that you read Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix. It has a lot of very good information on learned behaviors and how to cope with them. It sounds as if you have subconciously designated your husband as an "enemy", and so you are automatically responding to him with primitive "fight" reflexes. Hendrix's book has some suggestions for recognizing when you are doing this, and overcoming it. Good luck with your situation, I hope it improves for you.

Answer 4

If you feel that irritated by him, then you don't love him anymore. If you can't even stand to be with him in the same room for 5 minutes...that sounds like divorce is your solution.

Answer 5

I have a friend who has the same issues very similar to yours but unlike you, they are no longer together.

If you want to save your marriage, I suggest that you think about the reasons why you married this man and why you have been with him for this amount of time. List his good attributes and focus on them instead of occupying yourself with thoughts of how you can avoid him so you dont have to get annoyed by him (which I am sure is still as annoying). Tell him how his actions make you feel, maybe next time he will be more aware of it and will no longer do it (as often).

Answer 6

Sit down and list all the things you are grateful for because of him.Think of the good times,fun times,the everyday things. maybe look at planning a special outing,dinner or activity that you both like and make a "date". It's so easy to see the "irritating" side of spouses. Turn it around and watch him appreciate you and your efforts.

Answer 7

It's probably not him that's making you so angry. You need to take some time out and pin point the REAL problem. He might be irratating to you because you don't think he's as mature as you, but all to often, it has nothing to do with another person when we are triggered. Unless you dig deep and find the root, you will grow to be bitter and blame him for your hostility, and eventually, you might destroy his self esteem and ability to ever feel comfortable speaking to anyone. Take the time.

Answer 8

your husband likes each little thing neat and that's some thing that's no longer perplexing to do in case you like him. i think of the two you do in comparison to him or you're unhappy with youself. i think of you're able to be happy with the aid of doing issues for human beings. little issues,no longer something huge. tell him you like him whether you do no longer experience like it on the time. purchase him a card telling him how lots you're taking exhilaration in him each now and then. or basically a splash be conscious left on his table. this might make you happier or i visit bye you a candybar lol. once you're a Christian, study the Bible and take time for your self each and on a daily basis. manage issues only before time to no longer be moved quickly. pray. once you awaken interior the morning, thank the Lord for yet another day to aim and be happy.

Answer 9

I think that he is trying to get your attention, but with the attitude you have, he has no other choice but to be abnoxious. Maybe if you give him that attention that he needs, he wouldn't be acting like that. Anotherwards, be a 'loving wife' to him, not a horrible 'b$tchie woman' and stop putting him down. You married him!

Answer 10

Woman are like that, you are no confortable when someone else is in a good mood so you have to get irritated.