Is this too much makeup for a 16 1/2 year old?

Question

Although she is very pretty and has nice skin, she cakes on what I like to call "hooker makeup," every day before she goes to school. She spends at least a full hour or sometimes longer, in the washroom- applying makeup every morning before school, and that's not even including the time it takes her to do her hair, which she just recently bleached out. She wears; foundation, concealer, two shades of blush, eyeshadow, black eyeliner, two coats of mascara, & lipgloss. It doesn't look goth/"emo" or anything, but she always looks like a porcelain doll. I don't have too much of a problem with it, since she is 16 and can pretty well do what she wants, but she is very young looking (12, maybe 13 at the most), so it's sort of like looking at a girl who "got into mommy's makeup." Anyone else have this problem with their daughter?? She's literally obsessed and will not leave the house unless the makeup is caked on. She is also a former cheerleader and has been wearing makeup since grade 4 or 5?

Answer 1

i think this is a problem....i started wearing make up when i was 14.....but very lightly, just mascara and lipgloss.....u should set up some rules, she is just 16 she needs limits....just tell her to reduce the make-up that she would look even better, and her skin will be healthier.

Answer 2

You know 16 is a difficult age and it is a time to experiment, so I think this is a passing faze with your daughter. What you can do is go to the store and buy some new makeup for yourself that is more appropriate for her. Just because it is new, she may just give it a try. Leave it out in the bathroom vanity for her to see, or just casually mention it that you found this lovely makeup line and it is beautiful. Another thing you could do is have a makeup party like Mary Kay or Avon. Invite her and a few of her girlfriends plus a few of your friends and maybe she will want to try some new makeup products that are more appropriate for her age.

But you know, she will get over this heavy makeup thing believe me. Next year, she may be on a no makeup kick with just lip gloss and mascara. That is the way teenagers are. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Her problem is not "too much makeup". It sounds more like she wants to look beautiful, and she thinks the makeup is going to do that.

In fact, good makeup will not hide your features, it will enhance the best of them and detract attention from the others.

The average 16 year old told by her mother that she looks like a hooker is likely to dig in her heels, and put on MORE makeup.

Why not try supporting her makeup efforts? Tell her you love how much attention she pays to looking good, and you want to give her a treat - a makeup professional lesson at a top beauty salon. To make this something really special, you could have one as well. Make it a "girlfriend" day. Update your own makeup at the same time as you bond with her.

The number of products she uses is simply a full makeup. It's not excessive. It's all in the amount and how it's applied.

The professional will show her how to look much better with the makeup, and your daughter will feel validated instead of criticised.

Answer 4

Why not take your daughter to a large department store where they have makeup artists and sign her up for a make-over? There the experts can guide her into wearing a more appropriate look for her.

Or host a Mary Kay party in your home for daughter and friends. Maybe make it a mother/daughter thing so the moms can be there to purchase good skincare and makeup sets for their daughters.

A last idea is plan a mother-daughter day at a spa for the two of you which includes a make up lesson. All of these are things that I did with my own daughter. No matter how good YOU are with makeup, daughters listen to others before us, so just be the "cool" mom who does one of the above. You will both be happier.

Have fun and be patient - daughters grow up to be beautiful young women. I am so glad that my daughter and I are good friends as well as mother and daughter now that she is out of college.

Answer 5

For a girl who's close to 17 years old and in high school, no, this isn't abnormal or something you should worry about. Your daughter is in a stage of her life where her reputation and social acceptance depends on what everyone else is wearing, watching, and how they do their make-up... I'm actually just a few years older than your daughter, and I can speak from experience.. high school is one big contest, and how you looked and acted played a big role in how well you got along with your classmates. Her 'hooker makeup' is standard teen wear, and cheerleaders are usually a little more likely to concern themselves with their 'face paint' anyway. Don't put too much stock behind it. ^_^

Answer 6

Girls will do that if they may feel insecure with the way they look naturally. Try to reinforce her with positive messages. Tell her each day that she's beautiful and that she doesn't need to "put on a face" every day. Also, she is at the age where boys are on her mind a lot, so she may be doing this to get their attention. Try to show her images of celebrities from magazines or online who wear little makeup but still look good. If you know her favorite celebrity or icon, try to google their pictures and find a few in which they aren't too made up so that when you show them to her she may realize that beauty is not about makeup.

Answer 7

yeah i would say that is quite alot of makeup for a 16 year old. all i put on in the morning is some eyeliner, sometimes mascara, and sometimes foundation. i think she shouldnt do too much makeup because she is probably really pretty without makeup on but just doesnt realize it.

Answer 8

I had the same problem with my daughter until I took her into Bloomingdales. I went to Bloomingdales Department store one day and asked one of the girls who does professional makeup for Lancome to please tell my daughter that her makeup is horrible and that its applied all wrong and if she can give her a make over. So the next day I went with my daughter and it was a wake up call for her I guess when someone else tells them and shows them that they don't need a lot to look beautiful and that looking natural is the best thing for that age. She loved how she looked after the make over, good luck and I hope I helped.

Answer 9

I would try to get my daughter to cut down on the makeup. Her beauty should shine through. Explain to her why you feel that way. When people look to "made up" it just looks bad. Make up should look natural and compliment her gorgeous features. Show her how beautiful her skin eyes and lips can be. Personally I feel that makeup makes a girl look like a clone

Answer 10

Well, it might seem like she is wearing too much make-up, but you do need to learn to let her have her own sense of style. Sometimes, parents can be too overbearing or controlling. It doesn't sound like her are, but there is a point in time when you need to let her go on little issues that aren't moral or life-changing. Just let her express herself, unless it does look like a hooker or just really too caked on. I hope that this helps you! You just have to learn to understand teenagers!

xo tinkerbell xo

Answer 11

sometimes this can be a problem , but on the other hand it is a great thing that she wants to wear make up , and ahe should not have been wearing it when she was in the 4th or 5th grade but she is 16 and a half now so no i don't think that she is wearing to much make up !