Im a 20yearold guy in college,,just recently coming to grips with my homosexuality,,i grew up in a very consertave home/communithy and am in a very conservative relgious college. All my freinds are extremely homophobic/conservative and on t he outside i appear this way too. I can't live like this anymore,, but haveno idea where to begin... I dont even have the slightest idea where to meet a guy to talk too. Anyone have any suggetions.. please help!
2007-02-22 10:22:29 · 17 answers · asked by secretlyhippy_prep 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I guess you would have to ask yourself why you feel the need to broadcast it....could you not just be a little discreet and just let your friends and family know? If those who know you decide to spread it across the community or if others who find out act a bit funny, at least you know where you stand with them and you'll have the upperhand of learning more about what they are like as a person. You don't need to broadcast it, but at the same time, you are how you are, there's no need to be ashamed, - heterosexuals don't go round telling people what they are to gain approval. If it's going to make your life difficult, i.e. your community is homophobic then just try to be discreet - it will make things easier for you and everyone around you. I know you're frustrated and feel isolated, I'm sure there are a lot of help groups around. Have a look in Thompson's Directory or Yellow Pages, they usually have homosexual/bi groups listed where you can go for a chat, help, meet similar people etc...there's also the internet and it's forums - but this might be a little risky, I guess you want real people........do you live near a university - being 20 yrs old I guess you're either still in 6th form or studying for a degree? - Almost every university will have their own gay/lesbian society - although if you're not one of their students, if you get in contact with the president of that society (also a student themselves) you may be able to join them as an associate member. I hope this helps.
2007-02-22 10:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by m l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the local personal adds or take out a personal in the school paper. There MUST be more gay people at your school who are also in the closet, you just have to find them. Be careful though, conservative homophobes can be real a**holes as you've probably already noticed.
2007-02-22 10:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-03 09:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by mayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your community or college have a gay organization? If so go there.. Have you tried on line chats like this you can make new friends that are conservative but are more open they are not liberals they just have a better understanding. Trust me their out there.. Don't despair.. Coming out now will leave you vulnerable.. It is done in environment that is conducive to you not them...
2007-02-22 11:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Latinfun G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can almost guarantee you will not be the only gay at your college! When they make snide remarks about gays...disagree with them and say everyone is different...stand up for yourself. You don't have to come out yet at college if you don't want to, but you never know you might actually find there are others who think like you but were afraid as you were to say it's okay.
Best wishes
2007-02-22 10:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have somebody in your closet do you really need to come out of the closet? I mean if your college and community are conservative what would coming out of the closet accomplish anyway!???
2007-02-22 10:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by sapphire_630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stats say that 1 in 4 people are gay,wether you're male or female, so to think that you're alone in your life is wrong. just take your time to find a person to talk to who will keep your confidence. there has got to be a local group that you could possibly join, best of luck in finding it !
2007-02-26 02:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by price 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is mankind Truly so far from self awareness that we need to go to such extremes to define ourselves?
You are fine bro.
Don't worry about it.
Just be yourself, do thing you would be proud of. be a person you would like and love and others will like and love you for it.
if they don't then they have no idea what Love is all about.
2007-02-22 11:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by Papa Mac DaddyJoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search online for GLTB groups in your area. Make some new friends and find resources to come to terms with your sexuality.
2007-02-22 16:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you have to come out? Just live your life the way you want to it's no ones business.
2007-02-22 10:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Alicat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋