What do you do when your best friend is being abused?

Question

I tryed social workers but she lies to them in fear of her mom killing her. She won't listen to me or anyone else! I care about her and I want to help.

Answer 1

Sadly, some people want to be abused. They're called sadists. Believe it or not, I knew this girl in high school who couldn't wait for Monday morning homeroom to tell us how her boyfriend beat her up during the weekend.

Answer 2

All you can do is encourage her to get help. You can't get her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Just be there for her to talk to and listen well as her friend. That is the only real way you can help. I know you really want to solve this problem for her, but you just can't. That's the way with people in life. Just know you are doing all you can do by being her friend and maybe someday she'll tell a social worker and stop the abuse. It is awful to want to help someone you really care about and then not be able to do anything at all. Thanks for being her good friend. Friends are wonderful to have.

Answer 3

How old are you? If you are in school, go to a teacher that you trust. If you are an adult, seek out help from the police. If your friend is being physically abused, take pictures of the injuries. If she is not willing to tell the truth about what's happening, there is little else you can do. Maybe there is some type of "hot line" you can find in your area for abused persons. They could give you more info.

Answer 4

Best help you can be right now is to support her. Setting her up to tell her story isn't the best thing to do as she is frightened of the aftermath of "telling". You need to encourage her to believe that it is NOT normal and unacceptable. Every time she is abused only takes one more day away from her. She will learn to accept this type of relationship from anybody. Eventually, she will seek out a male to protect her and find herself having attracted someone who will abuse her. Stay strong for her, don't lecture her but continue to reassure her that she is a good person and undeserving of the abuse and stick beside her.

Answer 5

I wouldn't tell anyone, i was abused and it was SO much better without people knowing, like so much easier to deal with the pain, plus the fear of a foster home is just too much, sometimes they suck too. I would remain her friend and just make sure it dosn't get TOO bad, there's a diff between TOO and normal so just beware of the median.

Answer 6

She needs help and you are a very good friend for trying to help. Talk to your guidance cousellor at school and talk to your parents too. The school will know how to get to the bottom of what's going on with your friend. Maybe the counsellors can get her to open up if she realizes if she just tells the truth she will be protected. My heart goes out to you both. Good luck

Answer 7

As an abused child myself, I wish someone had helped me. Your friend will lie to authorities because of fear. Your friend will probably not like you for a while, but will love you in the long run. No one deserves to be abused. Help them.

Answer 8

you have got to tell someone. if this goes on, your friend could get seriously ill. her mom has no right to get mad at her, because first of all,she is the victim. you should tell her mom and a social worker. your friend should not be shy, and if she is, you do it yourself, she could be there, but you do the talking. true friendship involves honesty and being there for each other.

Answer 9

Talk to a counselor or a therapy leader alone. Explain the situation and say that you're very concerned for her safety. Your friend is in real danger and simply giving up will only result in....something bad.

Answer 10

You need to tell someone else, a teacher maybe or one of your parents. She's lucky she has such a good friend who is worried for her but she needs to get somewhere safe out of the abusive situation.