my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i am way to young but i feel like if i tell him no! or say im to young or im waititing for marriage im scared he will dump me and i realy like him what should i do
2007-02-22 10:14:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
How old are you??? I have a 15 year old sister and I ALWAYS tell her that if a boy wont respect that you are a virgin and dont want to have sex yet then he isnt worth your time!! Anyone that REALLY LOVES AND RESPECTS you will except the fact that you want to wait!!! Dont give it up to anyone, wait till you are old enough and are fully educated on how to protect yourself. You have to be ready for something like this or it wont mean anything and you will regret it for the rest of your life ... save it for someone that is going to stick around for a long time and that is going to love and respect you!!!!
2007-02-22 16:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by Insert_Name_Here25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stick with your convictions! If you do not feel that you are ready to have sex then you are not ready, if your boyfriend truly loves you or cares about you then he will understand. I think it is awesome that you are wanting to wait for marriage way to go girl. Don't ever let someone else decide when the time is right for you to have sex. Honestly if your boyfriend doesn't support you in your decision to remain a virgin at this time in your life then it is best for him to go. Your body belongs to you and only you have the right to decide what happens to it. You will know when the right time for you is, until then keep saying no. (besides from what I understand most girls' first experience isn't all that great so make sure it is someone who really deserves it)
2007-02-22 10:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by fireproof413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gets pissed off at you for not wanting to have sex, don't do it. He's using you. From one teenager to another (I'm 15), don't be stupid. This sort of thing happens every day. He's 17. He will take advantage of you. He doesn't care about you as much as you do for him. It may seem like it, because you love him, but he doesn't love you. Think before you throw yourself away like that. Be sure you're ready. If he pushes you again, dump him. He just wants a virgin, because guys like that are just sick. He will break your heart. And then leave. If he doesn't ask you, "are you sure?", then he doesn't care about how you feel. And yes, sex is supposed to hurt. When you decide to give away your V-card, it's probably best that he is as inexperienced as you. Please don't let him hurt you. It happens too often as it is.
2016-05-24 00:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely stick to your guns on this one!! Tell him exactly how you feel and that the answer is No! You decide when you are ready, don't let anyone push you. If he breaks up with you because you won't have sex with him then he is most certainly not worth keeping around. If you are waiting for marriage (which is great! I am too), he doesn't sound like marriage material anyway. Get rid of him.
2007-02-22 11:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Horsetrainer89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u say no and he dumps u then he is just tryng to get some action, but if he really does care about u, he will respect u and wait. Be the one who is in control, dont let some guy make u do anything, if he is an ***, hed dump u, and if ur smart ull know that he is not a good person if he doesnt respect u
2007-02-26 09:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by no regrets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so glad to hear that you want to wait for marriage, and feel you are too young right now. So many girls jump into having sex before they are actually ready emotionally and physically. Tell your boyfriend that you don't want to because you are too young and that you want to wait until you are married. If he doesn't understand and breaks up with you over that, then he wasn't worth having at all. You deserve someone that will treat you the way you should be treated, not someone who only wants sex. (and if he breaks up with you because you don't want to have sex, then that's all he wanted) Wait until you are ready, and never have sex with someone just because you are afraid of them breaking up with you, because there are plenty of guys out there that would treat you right. Good luck and I hope you two can work things out.
2007-02-22 10:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by MsBeav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a girl growing up and you are old enough to make your own decisions. If you don't wanna do it, tell him NO, but explain your reasons why. Eg. Its against your princples, etc.
If he really likes you for you, then congratulations on hooking up with someone who genuinely cares for you! If he dumps you over this, then he's just a wolf in sheep's clothing. It'll hurt if he leaves you, but you can be sure you won't regret anything.
Sex is great if you do it with the right partner. If he persuades you, and you do it unwillingly, it won't feel as great as it should be.
2007-02-23 00:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may really like him, but if he doesn't respect you and your decision then he does not like you as much as you like him, so you should keep that in mind, also sex isn't all hyped up as what everyone thinks, you may just be dissapointed with your expectations of it anyways, so always go with your gut instincts and way to go for you for giving this some thought! respect yourself and look out for yourself it is your body and you do not have to share it with anyone unless you want to and don't do it until you feel 100% ready, or you will probably regret it.
2007-02-22 12:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cave in to the self serving little bastard. You and your self worth are more valuable than someone who expects you to do something you don't want. Trust me. You will regret it for life if you cave in. I know this as a guy who used to be a teen boy that was concerned more about getting my rocks off than the feelings of my girlfriend.
sincerely, a dad of teen girls.
2007-02-22 14:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes gonna dump you over sex then thats stupid. hes not even worth your time, but if you both feel like your both ready then go what feels natural. theres no shame in having sex
2007-02-22 10:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by hawaiian_lover1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋