Do you think it is a good time to have children?

Question

I want to have a child but it is difficult for me to get pregnant because of a condition I have called PCOS. The longer I wait to arrange pregnancy the shorter my chances. I am 22 years old and I feel like I am wanting this more and more everyday since I know the older you are the harder it would be. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I have been living with him for 4years. I love him alot and want us to share something special together. I am unemployed right now and he is starting his career!

Answer 1

Well I Suggest you get married. However, if you think baout it is anytime good to have a kid. Wantingmore money, a car, bigger house etc. I bought the house before the baby and since then upgrade my house 2 times over lol. till waiting on the baby or babies.
I have PCOS too. PCOS causes many issues. INFERTILITY for one. high cholesterol, hair loss or unwanted hair growt, skin tags, insulin resistence. These are all manageable conditions. Excercise and diet and METFORMIN to cheat the Insulin resistence. PCOS isnt a DEATH TOLL> It can put a major damper on having a baby if its not properly and aggressively treated with fertility drugs and procedures caled IUI or IVF.

Marrage and a house and a steady job would be great. However you and your BF need to figure out whats best for u and your family.

DO u love each other enough to be married forever and ever and ever etc.

Is it a happy and healthy relationship.

I married my best friend of 20 yrs in my now marrage. We decided with in 6 months of marrage to try and conceive again. We had a car and 3 br 2 car garage with 13 acres 2 baths formal living room and dinigng room and play room. Just no children to fill it.

I was diagnosed at the age of 14. I am now 36 yrs old with no children. 7 miscarrages and 1 ectopic. I say the sooner you go to a Reproductive endocrinologsts/infertility dr not a GYN the better off u are.

Dont waste your time and money on CLOMID> it has a very low success rate and it thins the lining of the uterus making it almost impossible for the embrio to implant.

I Highly suggest injectables drugs with iui as long as your hubbys sperm count is 21million or above.

I have done 7 IVF Cycles, 20 plus iui cycles,
13 shamful clomid cycles.

I have gotten prego with IVF and IUI and injectabel drugs only.

I truely wish you the best. I hope this was helpful.

Babysdust and best of luck. You need to listen to your head and your heart and work it with your hubby. ALso do some reseaerch on PCOS and treatments

www.resolve.org
www.infertility.com
www.soulcysters.org
just a few sites
you can do a yahoo search for more info

Hugs babysdust

Answer 2

Quite honestly, I don't think it is a good time at all. Apart from the polycystic ovarian syndrome that you have, I have to ask myself why, if the two of you are so drawn to each other, neither one of you has felt strong enough about it to go ahead and make that ultimate commitment to one another by getting married..
You are unemployed, your boyfriend is starting out on his career. This is not at all the best set of circumstances to be bringing a new human being into the world, whom you are then responsible for nurturing and raising. This is the kind of situation where it isn't about what YOU want, but about the best interests of another human being who will be helpless, and entirely dependent on you for a long time.
Also, I don't know how much your doctors have told you about PCOS, but it goes together with a lot of potentially serious conditions affecting other parts of the body, including the heart. In other words, there are some longterm health problems that can arise, and you have to think in terms of how this is going to affect your ability to raise a child, especially if you don't have a sound domestic foundation, and may well have significant financial burdons as a result of the condition itself and the things that it can lead to on down the road.
It's always tough to discover that life has thrown you a health-related curveball, and it takes a whole lot of courage to confront all the implications, and future burdons that you may well have to face, especially when your decisions could have a pretty heavy impact on the lives of other people. Other people may not agree with me, but one thing I am sure everyone would agree with is that you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a very serious discussion about whether the two of you ought to get married, and also discuss how the future progress of this condition could impact his career hopes if the two of you remain together.

Answer 3

Ok, first off, you have a valid concern that you could possibly have infertility and I would suggest that you make sure the PCOS is under control. Second, I"m happy that you are in a loving, committed relationship but, time's not wasting for you. Reasonably, you have MANY childbearing years left assuming the PCOS is under control. I actually agree with the person who said "dont' wait till you are 40 and have all the money & time" that is true. However, you really need a bit of dough for a kid so please, get married and let hubby & you make a bit of money, then work on the kids. Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't freak out about running out of time.this is the right time these next few years but don't have the baby until you two are married!otherwise things could turn out very badly.
and i agree don't wait till ur 40! 20's are easiest time to have kids.and enjoy them too. just get married first and then have a child and live happily ever after!

Answer 5

if you wait until its a "good time" to have kids, you will be waiting until you are like 40 and have all the money and time in the world and no sexy body left to keep trim and your husband doesnt want to sex you up anymore so you your bored and decide you want a baby to fill some kind of void in your life. Right now you want one because your body and mind is telling you its the right time. Listen to your heart. Do it now! Go! SEX NOW! Good luck sending you good fertility vibes . . .

Answer 6

it sounds like you two should wait until your lives are more stable. perhaps you can freeze your eggs and get them fertilized at a later date.

Answer 7

Get married first.

Answer 8

If you think you are ready go for it. i hope you Get your Baby.