We have tried living with her, and it didn't work, I don't know what posessed us to try it again. We did, we have 17, 15, 13 year old boys who hate her. she has had us investigated by CFS 3 times, all were fine. She agreed to pay 450 for rent on the house we are corenting, after over a year she still has paid nothing, we give her money to pay the bills then she claims it was her money, we are too much in debt to move, because she has bankrupted us, she has come into our room when we are sleeping, I have to have a keyed lock on my bedroom door so she won't go in and mess it up while she's snooping. WHAT CAN WE DO?????????? IN her brain, she has no problem
2007-02-22 09:58:00 · 14 answers · asked by dmekc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to tell her that she needs to move out. Your spouse should be the one to deliver the message.
2007-02-22 10:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. STOP TRUSTING HER. stop giving her money for the bills. you and your husband need to pay those bills. dont' give them to her anymore
2. you may need to key a lock on every room that you don't want her snooping (or stealing) including your boy's room
3. get her some professional help inside of a home or center. if she refuses to go then you may need to seek further advice (legally) on what you can do to get her out of your house
4. i saw on a previous poster, that a poster was having a similar problem with his/her brother that would not leave. when she is not home...go to a place where you can rent by the week or by the month...and move all of her things over there. when she gets home...hand her the keys and tell her that all of her belongings are over at her new place and that the first month's rent has already been taken care of but that the rest of the rent will be up to her to take care of (hey..if she ends up homeless then that will be her problem...not yours). hand her the keys to her new place. she will not have any of her personal belongings at your own place so she will have no choice but to go to the new place. when she leaves...you change the locks on all the doors and change the security code on your security system (if you have one).
2007-02-22 11:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"we are too much in debt to move, because she has bankrupted us" Like how? You say she is supposed to pay $450 a month, is that in writing? Do you have a signed contract? If the answer to either one of those are "no" then you pretty much screwed yourself. You can't even take her to court to recoup the money you've lost. I guess this will be an expensive lesson your parts. If you do have it all in writing/signed contract then take her to small claims court for what she owes in rent and bills.
2007-02-22 10:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has issues...does she see a psychiatrist? Therapist? Someone you could talk to also? This is a huge problem because she is not only involving your husband and yourself, but your children as well. This isn't a great environment for your kiddos! They shouldn't resent their grandparent!
The sooner you move her out the better your family will feel. My mother-in-law would do horrid things also, and we found out she was bi-polar. She ended up getting treatment and state assistance to live on her own. This was the best thing to happen for her and for her family! Good luck!
2007-02-22 10:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness that's ridiculous! I would tell her she has a month to start changing and if she doesn't, out she goes! But you have to be firm about it once you set the terms. Be blunt. Tell her what she is doing wrong. Yes, she is mooching off you. Get rid of that stress in your life!
2007-02-22 10:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by raw_hero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. Does she have any other kids she could move in with? Call family members and ask for help. She probably makes you guys feel sorry for her that's why you're still with her. Enough is enough and your family is being destroy by her, is time for her to go. Trust me I've been in the same situation.
2007-02-22 10:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by maggie209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my spouse to tell her that she needs to go to a nursing home and If my kids didn't like someone in the house I usually Put them first.....
2007-02-22 10:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♫Lauryn♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let your husband figure it out on his own if anything happens to her over something that you told your husband to do he will never forgive you , That is his mother and I'm sure you would not like him to decide your mothers fate
2007-02-22 10:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And I thought my mother in law was a mooch. I sure am glad she doesn't live with us anymore.
2007-02-22 10:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should move away from your mother in law and then let her fend for her self other wise your marriage is headed for dome for sure
2007-02-22 10:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by haroldgardner62002006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋