Is that normal ? I cannot decide.?

Question

I seem to think deep within that I want to keep on trying out and that I am not good enought at anything. Logically speaking, I cannot be good engouh since I don' t decide really, I just cannot.
Probably, I am just average, trying to excell in something but am
afraid of having this power of knowledge, skills, ....
Of course , there is a story to it , but that is not an excuse
I want to get out of this vicious circle, and my age is
not much of a hlep either (42) , although I still feel young.
Thanks for CONSTRUCTIVE comments.

Answer 1

I don't know your situation, but maybe you were criticized too much in the past and that gave you a low self-esteem. I had that problem when I was younger.

The best advice I can give is to think of something you enjoy doing and are reasonably good at, and try to get better at that. If there's something new that you're interested in, go ahead and try it out--if you enjoy it, you'll get better at it over time. Just make sure that whatever you do is something you enjoy, because even if you're not the best at it, you'll feel good because it's something fun.

Answer 2

It is scary when you're not 'young and invincible'! I am 45. I tried out to be an insurance sales person. I had to take a lengthy test. I needed 70 to pass. Mind you - I knew NOTHING of the career, but just KNEW I wanted to be one. I never did pass. It costs everytime, so I gave up. The GOOD news is I scored 67 or 66 each time. That's pretty close for someone who knows NOTHING about insurance! You have to try to say that you did. Do NOT think negative - it will only block your clear thinking! I also love music and am STILL trying to 'make it' out there and that is ANOTHER hard career to challenge. But I won't give up. Keep trying!

Answer 3

Your thoughts are just "Thoughts." They are neither true or false, they are just thoughts. YOU are the one who determines their relevance.

What you CHOOSE to THINK and BELIEVE about yourself is what determines how true something is for you.

If YOU choose to believe you are a not good enough, then you begin to act that in your life. However, if you choose to think and believe differently about yourself, then you will begin to act that in your life. What you think affects how you feel. How you feel affects your general mood. Your mood affects your actions. Thinking negative thoughts in the moment leads to negative feelings in the moment which leads to a negative mood then negative actions.

YOU can change your thoughts and beliefs...please read "You Can Be Happy No Matter What" by Richard Carlson or "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay.

As we grow up we incorporate the messages of our adult caregivers (parents, teachers, clergy, older siblings) into ourselves. Some of those messes were helpful (look both ways before you cross the street) but some were not (you'll never amount to anything). Your self criticism is just a replaying of the negative messages you received.