WOMEN ONLY: What % of Your Married Friends Cheat?

Question

I read an article recently that estimated that married women are now more likely to cheat than married men, and that that one out of eight children born within families don't match the DNA of the husband. Is stepping out on hubby really that widespread? What goes on during those girls nights? My theory is that women will cover for one another much more readily than mean will cover for one another.

What are your thoughts?

Interesting thoughts across the spectrum. Personally, I have been flirted with, hit on, and flat-out propositioned during my 15 year marriage--all of them married women. I have never acted on it, and always informed my wife.

At the same time, I think it's an age thing. Women up to age 35 seem to be adamantly loyal, but then quickly lose that in their late 30s. Any thoughts on that?

Answer 1

Amongst my co workers I think it is about equal between men and women, don't know the %.But this is just a guess, I see and hear a lot of things, phone conversations, etc but nobody ever owns up to it,By the way I think men would cover it up more, maybe because I'm female.

Answer 2

From my personal stand point (and this might piss some people off) the person that is cheating, be it male or female, is being selfish and in the long run will cause many people more harm than good, so on a personal level, I would be unable to cover for a cheating friend. And I hate to say this, but as far as which sex covers for their friends the most, I think that men are still the front runners in this debate for a very old fashioned reason. What woman would not be stigmatized (and her the friend who covered for her would surely catch some Hell also)if she became pregnant, and her husband had had a vasectomy, or for some other reason was infertile. See, we women are much better at seeing the consequences of our actions.

Answer 3

Of course women cover for their friends. But don't get to excited over the whole "girls night out" thing, trust me not much goes on there.
I do have one friend that cheated when she was married, but the way I see it if it was that easy for her to cheat the marriage was already over.
Now that over 35 thing it totally out of line :).....I'm 42 and in my case I would have to say I became more "loyal" as I got older. Guess it also depends on the man involved. You know it does take two and if either a man or woman cheats it is only because things are good in the relationship anyway. Happy people do not cheat.

Answer 4

I have never cheated on my husband and my other 2 married friends have, now they are divorced. For both of them, they were separated and going to get divorced before cheating but I still believe that as long as you are still legally married it is cheating. My parents have cheated on each other, my dad did it first and my mom did it to get him back. They are still married. So basically the only people I know who have cheated are those for whom the marriage is already over or the contract has been breached. I have never cheated, but I resist temptation like the plague because when I am mad at my husband, I could fall into a huge mistake if I weren't careful, and I don't ever want to hurt him like that.

Answer 5

Out of all of my best girlfriends, I only know 2 who cheated, one is still married and still cheating, the other got divorced but not because of the cheating, because of the reason she cheated in the first place. Her husband was never home. She tried to make it work and he would still drink with the guys and be gone hunting and fishing all the time. She asked to go, wanted to get a babysitter for kids, hubby just wanted to be with the guys. The one that is still cheating is also very in love with her husband, but doesnt feel loved by him. He hunts and fishes and drinks with the other friends husband and she also has discussed this and told him he needed to be more of a husband, companion, father to their children. She lives life like a single mom. I am not justifying the behavior, but I honesty believe that if these men had been acting like husbands and not like bachelors, their wives wouldnt have strayed. They are/were in love with men they couldnt get the attention of so when others paid attention to them, it was easy to do. Most all of my friends are faithful though, truly in love with their spouses.

Answer 6

I have had 2 friends who cheated on their husbands. But lets just say there husbands were not angels, either. I have cheated on my husband and was 27 (u mentioned an age factor). Years later, I had bad Karma hit me and my husband went and had an all out affair, he was 32 when he did it (last summer). I think it could be a 50/50 thing as far which gender is likely to cheat. I also dont really think its a gender issue as much as it is a character issue. Either you'll be faithful, or you wont.

Answer 7

I know 2 of my girlfirends cheated on their husbands. But then I have 4 other friends who's husbands cheated on them.

As for women in their upper 30's being more likely to cheat...well I don't know any statistics but I'm 36,I've been married for 19 yrs(in may) and I've never had the urge to cheat on my husband. And ofr what it's worth my girlfriends who cheated were in there mid 20's when they strayed.

Answer 8

All of my married women have NEVER cheated on their husband! Our girls nights range from going to watch 'chick flicks' (which we know the guys usually don't enjoy) to going to resturants or just lounging around and taking and eating junk food. We have NEVER gone to a BAR or CLUB without our husband. So with my group of married women i can say that cheating it completly out if the quetsion. Hope that helps calm your nerves a little...

Answer 9

I have a lot of married friends, two (one guy and one girl - they dont know each other) of which cheated that I know of. One cheated with 2 different people as in a serious relationship and the other 1 fling and 1 serios relationship.

Answer 10

I really only have 7 girlfriends, 3 of them and including myself are in open relationships and since our husbands know what we do and with who we don't consider it cheating since no spousal rules are broken between us. 2 others have had affair's and although one of them says she isn't at the momment I know for a fact that she is currently involved with a lover. No matter what you may think of my marital arrangement, make no mistake if you break the rules you and your partner have agreed on you have cheated. CHEATING IS WRONG!