Ok I met this guy and I had a huge crush on him. I really liked him and thought about him a lot. We became friends and I admit it I was a bit forward at times. I have depression and it was very bad towards the end of the friendship. One day he refused to talk to me. And then he told our friendship was over. My heart has been broken since that moment. This happened 5 months ago. I am still mad and hurt. I hate him to death. I still think about him a lot and have nightmares about him. I can't get him off my mind. I have tried many methods to get him off my mind, forget about him, and move on, but nothing has worked or made me feel better. Is this some sort of obsessive mental disorder? Why am I having a hard time moving on? Please help it is becoming intolerable.
2007-02-22 09:28:34 · 3 answers · asked by operajester 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
OCD or depression, they could be factors in your prolonged intense feelings about this guy. What I think is that you never had a chance to vent or challenge his reasonings for this split up and you want closure. This was a death of a friendship and probably needs to be treated like a death. Only time and being without him can only heal. Bad breakups and deaths can be quite traumatic in a person's life, but maturity and understanding can go very far. Write down the experience that brought on the break up from your point of view and if possible his point of view and then read it over and over. Then when you feel you've read it enough, burn it. This will symbolize that this is over.
2007-02-22 11:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an experience similar to this in college. I had a really big crush on a guy and came to care about him a lot during the two years we were friends. But one day, shortly after I had graduated from college and left, he e-mailed me and said he didn't want to be friends anymore. Through a series of e-mails that we exchanged, I learned that he knew I liked him but wanted to be just friends, and he had never had the guts to tell me that. I cried a lot and hardly ate anything for several days.
The best thing for me was that I started a new job shortly after that. I was a girls' dean at a boarding high school for a year, and those girls became my life. I still had a hard time for a while, but having something to do and people I needed to help gave me a new purpose in life.
If you're clinically depressed and haven't sought medical help, that would be a good place to start. Then find something to keep you busy, and hopefully that will help you move on.
2007-02-22 18:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by kielsa03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....I'm certain some of your depression symptoms are part of what is bothering you sweetie,...but the anxiety of all of this stuff can be pretty overwhelming too. OCD ? ....maybe! Are you on any meds at this time? Sometimes mind altering chemicals in the form of drugs can have a negative affect on your brain chemistry. In other words darling...it can mess you up worse then you might have been without them. Consult your licenced therapist and pharmacologist on this stuff though. Life is not always better through chemistry babe. They're supposed to know the side effects and irrationalities of all of this stuff otherwise. Anger, guilt, shame, and a handful of other emotions, have absolutely put your mind in a state or grip of fear darling. You need to go and release some of this stressful energy and tension. I go to the gym and workout physically hun. Not only do I get to put my heavenly bod in shape,...but I get to expend stress energy out of my body too. Looking at the athletically inclined hotties doesn't hurt too bad either. Hey sweetie,...some of us guys at the gym aren't too bad to look at either. Find a new guy and some new friends, and go slowly with everyone darling. You owe yourself the ability to have a good life sweetie. Now go out and grab it endearingly. Us new guys will help you to forget the old ones. That'll probably make new stress for you though I suppose. Get rid of your fears and insecurities babe. In your basement... put up a punching bag to kick some stressful *** darling. Pretend it's your former lover honey. That oughta expend some energy for you truly!
2007-02-22 18:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋