how can i tell my motherinlaw to ???? off.?

Question

I'm 16 1/2 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby.I've gain 9 pounds i'm 5"4 150. She's the only one talking about my weight.I'm a runner I love working out,but because i'm pregnant and i wasn't feeling good i only work out 2time's a week.All she dose is talk smake.& talk's about he's other baby mama..I really don't want to be a ?????,but i'm sick of it.Her son love's me to death..=) this is our 4th baby together.I just can't take it right know..& i don't ever want to divorce him.

Answer 1

Tell her that your dr told you that you and the baby are both really healthy and not to worry. You could even attempt to "kill her with kindness" and when she goes on about your weight say "OOOOhhh, isn't that so nice of you?? To be so worried about little old me and this baby?" then go into the line about the doctor telling you that you are both looking very healthy and not to worry.

My MIL is evil as well, so I feel for ya, girl!

Answer 2

Stand your ground. You're a woman and she needs to respect you. She just sounds miserable and thinks you're an easy target. Well I wouldn't let her run you. You're the woman of your family not her and she seems like she can't handle that. Whatever her problem is, it's her problem not yours. Is there anyway you can get your husband to talk to her? I just think that you or him needs to tell her as a matter of factly that you aren't going to put up with her remarks and if it continues then you aren't going to surround yourself or your kids around her negative attitude. Be respectful even though we know she's been so rude to you because you need to be the bigger and better woman than she has been to you. I'm sorry you have gone through this, but you know your self worth and she doesn't determine what it is for you. Only you determine it and her remarks won't ever make you believe what she says. She's wasting her breathe. I would tell her exactly how you feel. Good Luck! Congrats on your baby to!

Answer 3

She definitely needs to mind her own business. The next time she comes to your house sit her down or stand her up and tell her exactly how you feel. After all this is your 4th baby and I think if that is all the weight you have gained you are doing great. Also, she is probably jealous that you look great. Keep up the great job lady and try not to let her get to you. Stay healthy and get ready for the birth of your baby.

Answer 4

My mother in law is really nosy sometimes, and it drives me nuts. She has told me before that i really should start exercising more (my husband runs almost every day, but he is in the military and she thinks i should be able to keep up..). When she said this to me, i told her that it isn't what i want, and i am happy with the way things are, and so is my husband. Tell her that if he is happy with you, she should be too. Also, that if she isn't going to be giving you any positive feedback that you don't want to hear anything from her, because it isn't good for you or the baby.. and she doesn't want to hurt her grandchild, does she? Good luck with her, they can be hell!

Answer 5

Talk to your husband first. If he's a man, he tell mom for you. If not, tell him you'll deal with it and he better live with the consequences. But first....take a deep breathe. It may just be the hormones talking. Also, just stay away from her. Is she hispanic by any chance? It would explain alot. Nobody is ever good enough for their Mijo. Hope this helps.

The Syko Ward

Answer 6

my mother in law is very critical of me, my hair, my weight, whatever she can find to be critical of really. I ended up just saying to her that I didnt want my baby growing up with negativity, and that it can really bring down your self esteem, I told her taht she probably wouldnt like being reminded that she is getting old, and that i dont want my child thinking there is a problem with being a bit different from everyone else, so if she couldnt be nice and kind then I didnt really want that influence. I said it all quite nicely over a cuppa, and she took it okay, she understood that i was just being honest thank god

Answer 7

OMG!!! she needs to mine her own business.
Hey you had 3 babys before and you r preg now...so what if you gained 9 pounds....shyt
tell that lady to lay off. Dont stress about it and its not worth leaving your husband for.

being 150 and having 4 kids is not fat at all
shes porb jealous cuz you look way better then she does girl
tell your husband to help you out about this sit. cuz stress is not good fo ryou mama

goodluck

Answer 8

Just tell her - "You dried up ol' prune, piss off!" No! Just kidding! Sort of! You don't necessarily have to be miss nice when telling her because, after all, you are "hormonal" and frankly, she's not the pregnant one nor the one who gets to see you naked. So, say something like, "I do not appreciate you comments" or "Please do not speak to me that way" or "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" or "God forbid this child comes out funny - I'm blaming you for all the nasty, stressful things you say to me while I'm pregnant!" Whatever you choose to say, make it very clear that you will not tolerate her behavior. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Have you spoke to your husband? If not try to, maybe you both can speak to her. If not then tell her your self. If your husband really loves you (which I don't doubt) then it will no hurt your marriage. Tell her you have no interest in hearing ANY thing about his other baby's mother.

good luck MIL's can be so difficult.

Answer 10

Honey, just walk away.. If you and your partner are happy, and it seems like you are, that's all that matters.
Does your Mother-In-Law live with you? I sure hope not.
Stay away from her, she is a negative, nit picking, B*I*T*C*H.
Just stop going around her. If she doesn't like it TOO BAD..
You have children to take care of, and they don't need to be around her. Sounds to me like she has a lot of growing up to do.