n 02 we got engaged. i decided to live with him in his mums house for 7 years which we had all to are selves because she lived abroad. this year she decided to turn up and stay for a year along with his 42 year sczo brother. i do not live with him at the moment because it was living hell. he is talking about converting part of the house for us to live in seapartly 6 months ago and nothing has happened. He now saying that we should get married soon and everything else should fall into place. even if this means living with my parents whilst were married. i am not in the position to buy my own house nor is he at the moment.ive been with this guy for 8 years i am attractive but not mentally strong.
2007-02-22 08:53:45 · 14 answers · asked by alexis s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's the question?
2007-02-22 08:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Repub-lick'n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with parents is no answer. You need your own place. Even a little bed-sit that you can call your own is better than a big mansion in the country.
You must talk to him, and tell him how you feel. Give him an ultimatum that he finds somewhere - anywhere that you can call your own - or you are gone. I know this will be difficult, but you have got to do it sunshine.
Marriage will not solve anything. I would question whether, if after 7 years of not providing for you, he is likely to do so if you get married.
But I empathise with you, and wish you all the luck....
2007-02-22 09:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bunts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never a good idea to live with the rents or in laws!! Could you not rent a small flat together? ANYTHING would be better than the other options. Even if you built a flat on the side of the house....still too near.
Rent something cheap and decorate it to make it your own.
Best wishes
2007-02-22 09:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He determined it will be a reliable theory if we were engaged so as that it became extra or a lot less a fait accompli earlier he broke the info that he meant marrying me. absolutely, it wasn't that lengthy, because the first time I went out with him became the 9th would and he requested me to marry him on the 18th; we offered a hoop on the thirtieth would, then went to London for instance it to his moms and dads! His father refused to come back when we were given married. That became 40 9 years in the past this August.
2016-12-04 19:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by rothberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even consider starting married life together with either set of parents. Bad move.
Find a way to buy or rent your own place together, it's the only chance you'll have together.
2007-02-22 09:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford your to buy a place of your own why don't you rent one
You will get social if your money is really low and help your council tax etc.............
Don't get married until your relationship is happy again, it does not come with a magic wand to make things ok
you need some space for your own peace of mind
good luck x
2007-02-22 08:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think you are not strong if that was the case you would be living with the in laws from hell right now you are strong you just need a push . right number one tell him if he wants to be with you its his duty to provide a house for you not some place that will never belong to you and number two if he cant do that get someone who can their is plenty more fish in the sea
2007-02-22 12:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need your own place, and Mum needs hers. If you live with her, then you are at her mercy. You have to put up with her rules, like it or not, because you are causing her discomfort. However, when we are in relationships, we are sometimes uncomfortable, and family members need help now and then. It is important that you learn how to adjust to these uncomfortable situations. You are not the only one who is uncomfortable.
2007-02-22 08:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard but you will have to live separatly if you cant live with parents save money while you can to get a house together i wouldnt get married if i was you untill you are in a situation that makes u happy
2007-02-24 23:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by sha23z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is hard enough without adding such difficulties. You could either wait and start saving up until you are in a more stable position or rent and save up for your own place.
2007-02-22 09:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just rent an apartment live everyone else does and DO NOT live with either set of parents
2007-02-22 08:56:37 · answer #11 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋