How many marriages have been saved by cheating?

Question

I know a bunch of guys who have said they never could have gotten this far in their marriage if they hadn't stepped out, and Iimagine its true for women, too.

The truth is, most people who cheat do not get caught.

Wow... such a state of denial....

Stepping out once or thrice over a lifetime is not the same as these knuckleheads that go out every weekend looking for some easy meat, or some guy fooling around with his neighbor for all the town to see.... I can understand from your whacky responses why your friends don't share this stuff with you.

Answer 1

it is i am a wife who would go crazy without my extra sex my hubby just cant keep up

Answer 2

ok, I will answer this as honestly as I can. My husband had an affair last year. It was devastating to say the least. I would not say that the affair itself saved our marriage exactly...but then again I did not know it was in that much trouble. The counseling, talking, communicating afterwards when trying to work it out is what saved our marriage. It may not have ended next week, next year or even in 5 yrs, but at the rate we were going I do believe it would have ended. We almost lost each other over a VERY bad judgment call and selfish actions on his part. We have come to really get to know each others feeling a lot better, we communicate better, and our sex life is better. We no longer take each other for granted, or take our marriage for granted. So NO the affair did not save our marriage exactly...but it was a wake up call that we had to reconnect. After 11 yrs of marriage things can become routine and you not even realize it. I could have walked away when I found out...but I didnt...and I am glad I didnt. My marriage gets better everyday. I do not think he would do it again...as he struggles with his guilt constantly...but I did not think he would do it the first time...but if it does happen again I guess I will just have learned a hard lesson, but at least I can say I gave it eveything I have for my family.

Answer 3

I mean really, not to be judgmental but why stay married if you want to play the field? I think divorce is always an option. And how can you honor and cherish your marriage partner if you are out cheating? It seems to me every talk show in the country has covered this topic, particularly Oprah and Dr. Phil. They say it is how the person you cheat with makes you feel that causes you to cheat. In another words it is an emotional connection lacking that leads married people to stray. Somehow they lost that connection with their marriage partner so they are straying. So marriage when it reaches this point to me is really a waste of time and effort, unless you get some help to work through some of the issues. I mean a marriage where cheating exists, lacks honesty, and therefore intimacy.

Answer 4

No marriages have been saved by cheating. Millions of marriages have been destroyed by it.

When you cheat you put a big wall -- the BIG SECRET -- between you and the one person you love -- or used to love -- most.

You prove to yourself and possibly to the world that you can't be trusted to be honest and to keep your promises -- even to the most important person in the world.

Cheating leads to routine lying and sneaking around, jealousy, emotional distance, separation, divorce, stealing, destruction of childrens' lives, stepfamily complications, financial stress and sometimes even financial ruin, emotional distress, separation from God, shame, anger, rage, violence, stalking, and often MURDER and suicide -- that's just for starters.

There's no such thing as a harmless affair. If you don't love your wife or your husband and can't find a way to make your marriage work, then be honest and get a divorce before you start sleeping around -- not after.

Answer 5

I don't think cheating is right.

However, I think cheating is a definite sign of problems in a marriage and oddly enough, good things can come from some situations. I know of someone who cheated on his wife, mostly out of lonliness. She found out and they almost got divorced. They worked through it though, and now his wife is much more involved in his life. I don't think they've ever been happier together.

I'd advise to break up or divorce before getting involved with someone else. That'd be alot better of a wake-up call to the husband or wife.

Answer 6

marriages saved cheating

Answer 7

ZERO! Cheating just proves you're SCUM!
Nothing good can possibly result from cheating, as it proves you to be dishonest and disrespectful and totally destroys trust.

However, LOTS of marriages have been saved by both parties agreeing to have an open, honest relationship that includes seeing others and/or swinging with other couples or singles. As long as both of you know and approve of what each other is doing beforehand, it's not cheating.

Answer 8

No marriages have been saved that I know of by cheating. Some couples may still remain together even though one or both are cheating, but I wouldn't say it is a healthy marriage.

Nobody is forced to marry, if you like to go from woman to woman wear protection and don't get married.

Answer 9

Well, it all depends on why you cheated and if there is/was still love for each other. If both people admit their faults as to why their was infidelity, then, yes it can work. However, if your partner doesn't know about your affair and you're ego just needed a boost, then, I would say, you are the problem.

Answer 10

I don't think of it as being SAVED! That is a ridiculous statement. As a matter of fact unless one of the two in the marriage is 6 feet under...the truth could come out and ruin the marriage...so let your little friends that it isn't over till it's over!!

Answer 11

I know some marriages stayed together, because the wife or husband knew that it did not make sense at the time to get a divorce. they think that it was a one time occurance but they just hold on to the belief that it won't happen again.