Hi I'll start my story at the dreaded time I found my unborn baby girl had Hydrocephalus.(water on the brain)
I was six months pregnant at the time and had taken my folic acid as reccomended (which reduces the chances of having a child born with a Neural tube defect)
We were sent for test after test and were basically told the water was increasing crushing my babys brain causing her to be extremely disabled.
After extensive research and agonising waiting we decided to terminate the pregnancy. (please please do not preach to me, this is all I ask. It was the worst decision of my life and I will never forgive myself for what I did although I believe it was the right choice)
As you can imagine I had to 'give birth' and we kept my daughter by our side in a tiny crib in the hospital overnight where I had some time to say goodbye and pray for her.
Thats all been a year ago now and I feel ready to start trying for another baby.
2007-02-22 08:39:50 · 11 answers · asked by JJ J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
My only worry is my chances of this happening again have now doubled. I'm so so scared. Has anyone else been in this position? What has been your outcome? Thank you for taking the time to help
2007-02-22 08:42:33 · update #1
I haven't been in your exact position - but I had a screening for NTD at 13 weeks and my chances came back 1/50. I was devastated, went through with the recommended amniocentesis - (painful!!!)
I just heard a couple of days ago that everything was ok and normal. If I can breeze through with 1/50 chance - then you've got it made!!!
Good luck!
2007-02-22 08:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by P. K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly let me say how sorry I am that you had to go through this, my heart goes out to you! It's strange really cos earlier tonight I was thinking of my nephew that was termnated at 19 weeks with a very significant neural tube defect, that was 13 yrs ago!
His mum did go on to have 2 perfectly healthy children!
I think you have to look at the odds and how small they are really!
I also think getting pregnant again will be a comfort to you! I wish you all the luck in the world, it truly is one of the worse situations you could be in, I hope you can find the strength and courage to go ahead with another pregnancy.
Good luck, and don't ever feel that you made anything but the right decision! Unless people are in this situation they can't judge what they would have done!
2007-02-22 10:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A chance of 2/250 is a chance and it doesn't say if you are one of those 2. You need to decide if you can cope with possibly facing the same choice again and if you can see if you can be tested earlier for any problems. This way you would "know" if there was a problem as oppossed to a chance of a problem. Talk to your doctor or specialist about your worries. Hope all goes well for you and you have no more hard choices to make. lol
2007-02-22 20:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right choice its terrible to find so late on in you're pregnancy i would never think of preaching to you my sister also had to have a termination she couldn't carry she always had high blood pressure in here two pregnancys go and talk tp youre doctor to find out would it be safe to have another baby you wouldnt want to go through this again and get the same outcome you couldnt take it again i wish you all the best and i hope ypu have a healthy baby soon
2007-02-22 09:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jojo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry to hear about this. although i do think you made the right decision it would have caused her more pain to surive like that. i dont think you should worry to much about that happening your next pregnancy although it is still a 50/50 chance but any thing could have caused that to happen. it can happen to anyone. i would do a research on both family backrounds to see if any other family member has experianced the same thing just in case the cause was heraditary(spelling??) i wish you luck and will keep you in my prayers. again sorry for your devastating loss. take care..
2007-02-22 09:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not replying to advise you because I have no personal experience of this issue myself.....I just wanted to say im sorry for your loss. It must have been so so horrible. I think you and your partner are very brave, what an awful descision to have to make but I believe you made the right descision for you. Goodluck in trying for the next baby and I pray all goes well for you. Take care x x x
2007-02-23 02:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by doodlebip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your risk is very slim for your next pregnancy. There are risks for every pregnancy in every woman. NO woman can be 100% whenever they get pregnant that everything will be perfect. I am sorry for your loss and I pray for your next experience to be a happy one and healthy baby.
2007-02-22 08:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are very brave. i have not been through anythink like that, but i had to answer, you did the right thing and dont let anyone tell you different.
i just want to wish you all the best luck of the future.
2007-02-22 08:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by becky.elmes@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sisters baby was born with hydrocephalus but she kept the baby she had the choice what to do
she is now 18 years old
yes she had brain surgery when she was 2 days old but she is fine
i am glad that my sister made the right disision to keep the baby and not terminate the pregency
outher wise i would not have had a lovely niece
2007-02-22 11:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by zeuse 666 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Sorry cant help.
But just wanted to wish you all the best in the future.
2007-02-24 07:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by magic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋