See this is the thing...I know men can't be faithful to their wifes these days so when I decide to get marry I will let my husband cheat just as long as I get to do the same thing too...
2007-02-22 08:34:25 · 40 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I decided that it was ok for us. Usually we're together, sometimes we're not. No big deal. Honesty is the best policy.
2007-02-22 08:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ari A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An "open marriage" is a decision that should be made and agreed upon in the first stages of a relationship. The boundaries of what is and isn't cheating should be very clear from the start. If it is agreed on and acceptable two both partners then I would not consider it cheating. Cheating is going behind someones back knowing it is wrong and following through any way.
I think that you saying men will cheat any way is pretty general. Women cheat too but that does not mean that they will all cheat. I have been faithful to my wife for 13 years now and have absolutely no desire to be with any body else. People that take care of each other don't need to look outside of their spouse for attention.
2007-02-22 08:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by CJ5fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't get married! No point in being married to someone if you can't be faithful...that's what marriage is about. If you can't respect each other enough to not cheat then why be in a relationship? And not all men cheat.
2007-02-22 08:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by coldasyou213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so stupid hun of course guys can stay faithful if you pick the right one
my fasther has never cheated on my mother and do you know why its cus #1 he is a godd guy and #2 he loves my mom ans #3 he thinks marriage is a gift not a play toy and #4 he knows that if he ever did my mom would kill him and he has respect for her
so if every one is cheating then you should do it to huh . nnnnnnnoooooooooooo wrong lets go back to when we were little and our parents would say this little fraze that would make ua all role our eyes "so if everyone jumped of the cliff would you do it to" um the answer to that is no and cheating would be like jumping off a cliff it messes everything up and its no good
come on grow up a little and have some respect for yourself and some faith in men cus right now i am lossing respect for you and hope that the world is good and decent
2007-02-22 08:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I know men can't be faithful to their wifes these days " and you know every single man on this planet? Maybe the men that YOU know aren't faithful to their wives but you can't possibly know whether the men you don't know aren't. So you are trying to use this ASSumption to ease your own guilt about thinking about being married and cheating on the side. Besides it doesn't matther if both of you cheat...you're still breaking the marriage vows/contract and cheating on the marriage. If you want to fu ck around don't get married.
2007-02-22 11:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know I am a male and there no way in heck I will be cheating on my wife if do to me and I would do the same???? no way...
I would never do anything to or hope for her to cheat on me and I would do the same... That not acting as an adult....
My wife told me that if I ever cheated on her and she will end it period .... If I knew that I can't be faithful to my wife or feel like I need to cheat on my wife.. then I wouldn't be married to my wife.
I married her because we both knows that cheating eachother would not solved any plm. so I am so greatful that I found perfect woman...
If I wasn't married to this woman and Married you .. You would be very glad that a guy won't cheating on you. Because I am so in love with you... so I hope you can see this and understand...
You just wanted to happen and then you will get over it.. It won't work... it going to be harder for u to get over it... smiling...
2007-02-22 08:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get married at all? The point of marriage is that because of your love for one another you are committing yourself to that person and the relationship that you have. And it is not impossible to stay faithful. Just because a man gets married does not mean he is destined to have an affair. We all have choices, and it it is a choice to stay faithful or to stray.
Marriage is hard, and should not be entered lightly. It is also the most amazing relationship you can have if you choose to make it that way.
2007-02-22 08:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that letting him cheat is going to bring you happiness than you are 100% wrong.I'm a man and i have never nor will i ever cheat on my wife.I have many friends who get the chance to cheat on their wives and never take oppertunity to do so.So if you think this guy will cheat on you in the years to come don't marry him.And if deepdown inside your the one who wants to cheat then maybe it be best for the both of you to just be swinggers that way you can allways keep and eye on him and know who he is sleeping with..Letting him go off on his own and cheat would be like playing russian roulette..you would never know from one day to another if he is bringging HIV home with him or any other kind of present..
2007-02-22 08:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might know that your man can't be faithful, but not all men cheat. Why get married if this is how you feel.
2007-02-22 08:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Facts:
No it is not ok if you both cheat.
Don't waste time getting married - you don't understand the concept.
Mature adults do not cheat(women and men alike) on their spouses.
US divorce courts are full of immature people that used marriage as a game.
2007-02-22 08:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both agree on an open, honest relationship, where you see others or swing with other couples, and there are no lies or secrets, then it's not cheating. It is the lies, deceit, disrespect and betrayal of trust that makes it cheating ... if you have sex with someone else and your partner knows all about it beforehand, then it's not cheating.
However, there are LOTS of guys out there who won't and wouldn't cheat, so don't get stuck on thinking that all guys cheat! Only SCUM cheat!
2007-02-22 09:27:02 · answer #11 · answered by wijit13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋