I work in an office with all women, no men at all. One of the ladies is getting ready to have a birthday so they're going to throw her a surprise birthday party. The problem I have with it is that it's going to be a "s** toy party", where somebody comes in to sell "toys". That kind of stuff offends me and I absolutely do NOT want to go. I will not have any fun and I'd be miserable if I went. I keep telling them I don't want to go, but they just keep on and on about it and act like it's just horrible that I don't want to go.
First, don't you think it's kind of odd that a group of women would have a s** party?? Second, how can I get these people off my back and respect my wishes? I just want them to shut up about it!!!
2007-02-22 08:31:20 · 10 answers · asked by Angela R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From experience, they are a lot of fun! However if you are going to feel uncomfortable about it then don't go. You don't have to go just to make them stop bugging you about it. You are in control of your life and wishes, so do what's right for you.
Another option is to tell them that you're going, and then don't show up...tell them that you had something came up at the last minute. I agree with you there is nothing worse than peer pressure, but ultimately you must do what YOU feel is right for you! take care!
2007-02-22 08:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as my opinion goes, it is just that. I hope that it doesn't offend you or any else that happens to read this but here goes.
If your other office workers cannot have the insite or the common sense to listen to you when you say you don't want to go to ehis party because it offends you, then maybe they aren't as smart as you first thought. Your feelings should be taken into consideration by your boss if not by everyone else, that the s** toy party is a taboo subject for you. This doesn't mean you are a prude or anything like this, but it does mean that if they want to have a s** toy party that they don't have to include you if you feel offended.
S** toys are completely different ideas than even the telling of off-color jokes. Jokes can be forgoten in an instant, s** toys can be seen any time someone opens a drawer, or a purse, or a backpack or anything like that.
If it were up to me to say anything to the rest of the work crowd that you work with, please let first say how much I really applaud you for having the nerve to ask and want input about a touchy subject. Ok! What I would say to them is that they are all shallow minded people that feel that just because THEY want to go to this s** toy party shouldn't mean that everybody should have to be the exact same as they are. Everybody is an individual and should be allowed to express their own opinion without having to take a load of guff from ill-mannered co-workers.
2007-02-22 16:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Double J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that until a guy at work said "yeah I don't see you going to one of those" And then when I told my family they said the same thing so I went just to prove them wrong. But in the end I was ok with it, incredibly uncomfortable at first but after a while a realized that everyone is a little uncomfortable, and as the party went on everybody just joked about the stuff they were showing us I've been to a few more since that one, never bought a thing but whatever! If you don't want to go tell them you will and when you don't show up, lie and tell them you forgot or something came up!
2007-02-22 16:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely don't think it's appropriate for you to be the only man attending a party of this kind with your female co-workers. Women have parties like this all the time, but I've never been to one with a man present.
Tell them you've made other plans! And, of course, to avoid lying, actually make other plans. Then bring a nice, appropriate gift to the woman on her birthday. If they still won't leave you alone, you might report it to your supervisor. It could be seen as sexual harassment.
2007-02-22 16:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them you are going to attend choir practice, meet your pastor to plan the church bizarre, or that you have to work on your Sunday school lesson plan. I would think anything religious would shut them up. Don't go if you don't want to go. Stay away from that. I wouldn't go to that sort of thing either.
Ewwww!! It's bad enough you have to use the same microwave as these people, now this? Oh h e l l no!!
Best of luck to you.
2007-02-22 16:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go, but that is me. What you need to do is tell them in a nice way. Just let them know that you are not into that, or if all else fails, lie and say something came up.
2007-02-22 16:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by buzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the ladies that you are flattered they included you in this unconventional "work" party, but you would be too embarrased to be there and just prefer not too, and tell them that, if they still pester you just smile and say no thank you.
2007-02-22 16:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by snickersmomma5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go because you can learn more about what turns a woman on. That might be a valuable lesson when you get into your own relationships.
2007-02-23 04:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let them understand that its smth that is not part of your repertoire and just bow out respectfully. dont fall for the pressure, be ur own woman and speak for yourself. and yes those parties are very common. i went to one once, long time ago without realizing what it was, it was absolutely absurd.
2007-02-22 16:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by braille 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is so bad about it? Just go
2007-02-22 16:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋