WEN i M0VED 0UT HERE i BECAME FRiENDS WiTH THiS GiRL NAMED REBECCA.WE BECAME BEST FRIENDS i W0ULD SAY AB0UT A YEAR AG0.WE HAD THE BEST 0F TiMES.WE L0ST 0UR ViRGiNiTY THE SAME NiGHT.AND WE WERE JUST iNSEPARABLE.UNTiL....AB0UT 1 1/2 M0NTHS AG0 SHE STARTED HANGiNG 0UT WiTH THiS GiRL NAMED VANESSA(HER EX BEST FRiEND) AT FiRST i DiDNT HAVE A PR0BLEM WiTH iT UNTiL THEY STARTED HANGiNG 0UT 0N WEEKENDS.i D0NT LiKE VANESSA F0R VARi0US REAS0NS AND REBECCA KN0WS THiS BUT YET SHE W0NT ST0P HANGiNG 0UT WiTH HER.REBECCA iS 0NE 0F TH0SE CARiNG AND(i CANT BE MEAN )TYPE 0F PE0LPLE.S0 i TRY T0 UNDERSTAND BUT N0W WE BARLY EVER TALK.AND i FEEL L0ST WiTH0UT HER.WE'VE TRiED T0 GET iT 0VER iT T0GETER BUT N0THiNG SEEMS T0 W0RK. iM L0ST.i W0ULD TURN T0 THIS GiRL F0R EVERYTHiNG.BUT N0W iM STARTiNG T0 FEEL LiKE A BARLY EVEN KN0W HER..G000SSHH..HELP ME PLEASE?
2007-02-22 08:22:47 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know what you mean, because i'm going thru that right now with a friend, but all that you really can do is still be there for her, but get out there and try new things. Meet new people, or hang out with old friends that you haven't seen or talked to lately. It doesn't hurt to secretly with that they get into a huge fight, and end their friendship. (haha. just kiddin)
2007-02-22 08:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Andii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant tell someone else who they can be friends with. Rebecca has a right to hang with whoever she wants. You made a huge mistake expecting her to push Vanessa away. You need to apologize to Rebecca and then find a way for all 3 of you to get along or you will need to find a new friend. Youre in the wrong thinking you can control who other people have as friends.
2007-02-22 16:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks that your feeling that way but why don't you talk to her and tell her how you feel... Explain to her that you really don't care for her other friend and that it's all up to her if she wants to keep hanging with her.. But you just want to know if she wants to keep being your friend and if she will be there for you as well as her other friend... I think that the other girl found out that she had been replaced and now is getting between the two of you... She may just be using her but, unfortunately you can tell her that she won't believe you... So, keep her as your friend but remember that you can always talk to other people and when the other girl sees that you are not that close anymore she may then dump your friend again... Just wait and see things will all work them self's out....
2007-02-22 16:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by evepineda02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell Rebecca that you have no problem with her being friends with Vanessa but that you wish she would spare some time to have a friendship with you. Just because she has a friend you don't like is no reason for your friendship to end it will just have to change a bit.
If this doesn't make a difference then unfortunately your friendship is over and you will have to move on.
2007-02-22 16:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I read here, you really want to stay as best friends with Rebecca. And I think you take things too seriously. What I suggest is that you you move on and let things be as it is. If you can, try to get to know Vanessa too...
2007-02-22 16:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by ramzi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask when she's next free. When she's free, arrange a shopping trip or to the cinema, and tell her you want to take her o for a proper day out. Then bake her some cookies or something and gift-wrap them, and give her them in a present to her when you see her, with a little note. And tell her how much you miss her. She'll love the cookies and wil honour how much time you spent on her!!
2007-02-22 16:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥H] ッ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard when you are used to it just being 'the two of you'!!!
I can fully understand where u are coming from- as i have been in this situation also....to be perfectly honest, Rebecca should understand how your feeling, and try and make time for just u & her..but by the sound of it, she has'nt, and expects you to fit in no matter what!!
Go out and find more friends, and spend time with them, then Rebecca will realise what she had and lost!!!
stay friends with her, but show her u don't need her..Good Luck
2007-02-22 16:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
release the CAPS LOCK key.... okay.... is your life ruled by this person? Do you need this person to give your existense some sort of validity? Be independent and move on. If she values you, she will miss you. Right now, you're being a sucker. People who use others love suckers.
2007-02-22 16:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Nicnac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all.. How old are you? Secondly If you don't feel conferdable around her then you shouldn't hang out with her. I made that choice with my fried. In school I don't hang out with my friend cause of her friends. Only on the bus and spare time:) Hoep this helps.. It is your choice!
2007-02-22 16:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get to know Rebecca better. Or meet other people without necessarily dumping your friend.
2007-02-22 16:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋