my boyfriend treats me like i dont excist when his son is here.he says it might upset him but even when his son is asleep i cant give him a cuddle without him sayin keep the noise down he might wake up
2007-02-22 08:21:35 · 22 answers · asked by welshpinkbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how long have you known him? how long have you known his son? if its not long then hes probably being cautious of his son getting attached to you.
2007-02-22 08:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is just being overly concerned about how his son sees and accepts his relationship with you. It is important for a parent to spend quality time with their children during visitation. At this point this appears to be your boyfriends priority and it should be so. He is not ready yet to include you nor involve you as part of his and his son's life. You need to really think about all of this and be willing to accept this as part of the deal when you choose to involve yourself with a man that has a children.. Next time his son comes to visit, why don't you plan doing something else with a friend, this way you will not be in the way. Good luck to you!
2007-02-22 16:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend treats you as he should. i assume you have no complaints when it's just you and him. when his son is around, his son comes first, yes, before you.
you are his girlfriend, that is his son-a living part of him. what kind of a man would he be if he neglected his son in any way, for you or any other person?
would you want your child to wake up or be woke up by the sounds of mommy cuddling with some guy? what if he comes out to investigate?
you need to think of someone besides yourself. consider yourself lucky to have a real man that has his priorities straight. you don't deserve him.
2007-02-22 16:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by wickedladyredd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend thinks his son will be upset that there is a new woman in his life, or that the son will be confused that Daddy is kissing someone other than Mommy.
Depending on the age and maturity of the son, he still needs to have a talk with him and explain who you are and your significance in his life. Tell you boyfriend that you care about him and want to share in his life - including his son - and he needs to start including you.
2007-02-22 16:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is something you might have to get used it. His son will always come first as it should be but I have to believe in time things should get better. Its up to you to decide if this is what you truly want. Either way good luck to you.
2007-02-22 16:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he a good father. how long have you been seeing him. if he is not a good father then well you need to move on cause how he treats you and his son is a sign of your future. if he is a good father give it time it might just be newness. i wouldnt want my kids to see me dating other ppl then there daddy. but we are divorced so i dont bring ppl around them until i find someone they can be attached to with out being abandoned again
2007-02-22 16:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by B vitamins leafy veggie protien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of his child seeing daddy show love to someone else other than mommy. It's as simple as that..........................
This is understandable to a certain point. But once the child reaches a certain age.......4 - 5 yrs old, it's time for that to stop and the child needs to be taught that although they are not together anymore, he still loves the child.
2007-02-22 16:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by Myndlynd T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if his son is in the same room while you are in bed he is just trying to do the best for his son. I agree the child should come first and you need to accept that.
2007-02-22 16:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to weigh your options, and see if this relationship is worth it. Sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend, and try and see where his head is at. And then you need to decide, if you want to be second fiddle to his son!
2007-02-22 16:27:10 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being too demanding. Children should usually (but not always) come first.
On the other hand it's hard to see how a simple cuddle could be too noisy.
2007-02-22 16:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
il give u a point blank answer o.k..it means hes son is more important than u...hes just treating u as his companion not a lover......more important doesnt necessarily mean that he should switch things between u and his son that hes gona luv u more than him coz it wil not gona happen...the thing is he can live widout u..but he cant live widout his son....
2007-02-22 16:27:57 · answer #11 · answered by suarez_stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋