I've been friends with Angela for 3 yrs. She is 3 yrs & 8mths older than I am. When we met I was 21 & she was 25. I am now 24 and she's 28. We became instant best friends. We went through everything together. I was immediately in love w/ her. In fact, the first 6 months I knew her I asked her out like 5 or 6 times all w/ resounding, no's. But we still maintained an AWESOME unconquerable friendship. We started dating after my paw-paw passed away. We dated for a year but argued too much. We still maintained the friendship...BEST friends. We had sex for about 5 months after we broke up. It has now been 3 months since we've done it, & she's gettin ready to move to a whole other state (13hrs away) I've asked her to take me back numerous times but she says no, but I still see some fight in her eyes, like hesitation. I don't want to pester her, we REALLY are best friends. She wants me to be happy, and I want her to be happy. My question: How do I make myself more appealing to her sexually?
2007-02-22 08:20:26 · 5 answers · asked by chrissexysmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know the first reson why you havent caught this girl you'r inlove with. She put you in the friend loupe to soon to become anything else. She probobly dosent think that you'r ready for something as deep as most girls want a relationship to be. Nobody can really tell you how you can be more attractive to a person. Expacally people that dont even know you. But I will tell you what the problome is so that you can change it you'r self. You said that you guys started dateing after someone died 1st thing you never do that! In the back of her mind she liked you already but you started a relationship off of gilt and no wonder it didnet work out. Number 2 she is Attracted to you aleady if she wasent she wouldent have Sex with you. Girls are diffrent from men they just can have sex with no feelings.You dident let time take it's corse in the begining and you guys faught alote so I read. When you guy's faught you killed a big chace of being with her for a long perioud of time. Because you made her feel that she lost you in her life and when you did that, you made her reluctent to lose you agean. She thinks if you'r together agean in a relationship that she will lose you forgood. She is not willing to throw that kinda friendship you have away. She loves you and want you in her life anyway she can. She wants to be with you but thinks if that happens that it wont last and she will lose you. But she also knows that if she keeps puting you off you guy wont be in a friendship eather. But she is playing it safe hopeing for the best. you need her to take a chance agen and you need to show her that it wont be like last time. I don't know how you can do that you have to figure it out you'r self and if you can't then that's it. But one thing that I do know for sure is that you need to show her what her life will be without you.
2007-02-22 09:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...it's the premise of every chick flick ever made. Hmmm. If they taught me anything it's that she will go away and then have a revelation that you're really the man for her. If this were really a movie then you would be engaged when she came crawling back.
I'm not making light of your situation, I'm sure it's painful. It's just such a common theme between friends and friends with occasional benefits.
Let her go...maybe she'll come back to you. or try one last grand romantic gesture like a room full of roses...
2007-02-22 08:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by the beet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you dont need to do anything. I think she really likes you, but she likes you so much, she dont want to hurt you. You guys are too good of friends to let a relationship together ruin you! You can still be her best friend, and you probably always will have a special place in her heart, but shes only thinking of you in the long run! Trust me! She doesn't want to hurt you. I'm sure what you see in her, the hesitation, is her wanting to crack and tell you how much she misses you and loves you, but she knows it wouldn't be good in the long run. The first time you guys were together and fought all the time probably really scared her, and she dont want to hurt you or herself. Leaving as friends would be best.
2007-02-22 08:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by punky brewster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has said no to you and you love her, why don't you call her when she moves instead of begging her to take you back. You can't MAKE anyone love you, so you should just stay friends.
2007-02-22 08:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So all you want is sex?
Sounds like all she wants is a friendship. Id leave it at that.
2007-02-22 08:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋