He claims she's now engaged and he was just seeing how she was doing. Apparantly they've been e-mailing eachother quite a bit and to top it off she lives somewhat close to us. What makes me most concerned is that he was asking her sexual things, then saying that he was talking about our sex life. He says that he'll never talk to her again. Last night he went to a bar to meet one of his "friends" and that friend happened to call looking for him. We got married young at 23 and we're now 26. We have no children. How do I get over my insecurties and learn to trust him again or should I? I saw my dad cheat on my mom over and over and I saw the pain that she went through and I don't want that to happened to me.
2007-02-22 08:11:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say take it step by step. Maybe what he told you was the truth. Maybe he was just seeing how she was doing. But you should trust that what he is telling you is the truth unless something different is proven.
And what kind of "friend" was this that called looking for him? If it was a girl, I'd worry. If it were a guy, then you should not worry too much.
Since you did see your dad cheat on your mom, you sorta know the signs to look for. And you also are probably on edge thinking it could happen to you too. So, take it slow, and trust him.
To get over your insecurities, you should treat yourself to a makeover. Go get a new hairstyle, new sexy clothes, new make-up and all. Just treat yourself and make yourself feel good. Once you look like you want, and know your hubby likes your look, you usually feel good too.
Hope this helped and wish ya the best!
2007-02-22 08:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, your insecurities are due to his deceitful actions of hiding in the guest bathroom and talking to his ex girlfriend about inappropriate things that a married man should not be talking about to another female. His behaviour is an indication of his lack taking the marriage seriously. He is proving to be un trusworthy. You must approach this problem head on. Good luck to you.
2007-02-22 08:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your lucky you caught him.Did he say ,I'm sorry,forgive me, it won't happen again,she won't stop calling me,were just friends.Help him pack his stuff or you leave. The trust is gone you will not be able to look at him the same again.That's just my thought read the sites
your not alone. There is not standers left. Hope this helps
Good luck I have been there done that.
2007-02-22 08:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would YOU have to be the one to get over things and learn to trust him again? Sounds like he's not worth the effort at all. It's up to you, but once you break trust, it's hard to ever trust again.
2007-02-22 08:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe it was a friend who wanted to meet him, it was probably this same girl he went to meet. sometimes in life when we have a father figure who did certain things, we often end up with that very same kind of man unfortunately. u need to confront him ask him where his heart is at, seems he is still holding on to that woman, and if he is your going to have to decide what to do. funny thing that a friend just happened to call, and want to meet him. seems as if there is still very much some sort of relationship going on with them. and i would be very uncomfortable if my husband were discussing our sex life with another woman.
2007-02-22 08:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can girl!!!!!! When we have to try to convince ourselves to trust someone that means we shouldn't. As time goes on you will find out more horrible little things about him and you'll wish you would have listened to your first instinct. Save yourself some pain.
2007-02-22 12:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by LovinMeNow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be naive, your husband sounds like he's being a real jerk. Be true to yourself, if it walks like a pig and oinks like a pig, and smells like a damn pig, it's a PIG!!! I say cut your losses and get out, you can do better!
2007-02-22 08:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be concerned. It sounds like he's fooling around on you, or is thinking about it.
2007-02-22 08:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not insecure, you shouldn't trust him and if you don't want this too happen to you, call a divorce lawyer now!
2007-02-22 08:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on-line to E-Harmony and add it to your favorites. He'll either cut out the crap or sign up...then you'll both be happy!!
2007-02-22 08:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋