2007-02-22 08:09:11 · 8 answers · asked by renepika 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I work in a GNC and come across a number of women with this problem. Does your wife take a daily multi vitamin??? If she doesnt then she needs to start!! She can also get libido boosters in a GNC or other health store such as steel libido, arginmax, hot plants ... there are a few more. Tell her to take the daily mult vitamin and try the steel libido if that doesnt work tell her to take it back and trade it for something else until she finds one that works.
2007-02-22 17:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Insert_Name_Here25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is a very long time!
Usually that stage lasts for a year or so with some women.
Personally, I could hardly wait after my kids were born.
Was she enthusiastic before her pregnancy?
Did she enjoy sex during her pregnancy? Most women are incredibly hot during this time.
Is she open to discussing this or has it become an issue?
Perhaps a visit to her doctor to check up on this is in order.
Libido is both chemically and psychologically induced. It is not normal for a woman to go this long to be very honest.
Does she avoid sexual situations or just not get turned on?
This would be very frustrating for a man who loves a woman and only wishes to share pleasure with her.
Do you help her around the house and ease her load?
I think a naked man in an apron wearing rubber gloves doing the dishes is hot! LOL
Have you tried giving her a day of pampering? Massage, etc etc... best on a romantic weekend in a lovely place. A lovely thing to wear at night? NOT hot lingerie yet, she may have body issues as well. Never underestimate the power of offering a woman a foot massage!
But to be honest, unless she wants to get past this, everything will be a waste of effort. The desire to change must come from within and until she acknowledges there is a problem, nothing will change.
Kevin I am sorry you had a bad experience, but some wives love to have sex with their husbands. In fact, I would say the majority do. Please do not paint us all with the brush of your past.
2007-02-22 08:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There used to be a law that stated if a child was born outside of marriage then the father would have very little, if any, rights to that child. Since the law has changed recently it recognises that not everyone gets married before they have children and parental rights has been reinstated for fathers even if they are not living together. If your ex pays child support and sees his son on a regular basis then really he has as much right to a say in what happens to his child as you do, you may be the residing parent but surely situations like yours should be discussed with the childs father as to what is in the best interest for him (your son that is). Moving 28 miles away may not be a problem for your ex to collect his son for access but changing schools may be. I assume that the school he is at at the moment has your sons dad down as a contact number for emergency ? in that case this is something you will be taking away from him if you move to this other place. I think you need to find out legally where you stand in all of this and whether moving 28 miles away to another school and taking your son away from his familiar surroundings and friends is going to be the best thing for him. That takes care of the legal side of things but morally perhaps you should discuss this with your ex partner and find out why you think he would be against it and whether you could reach a compromise.
2016-05-23 23:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing more info, I'd guess your wife is tired. Taking care of a house, looking after a child, and having a job can take a lot out of people. Try taking on a couple of chores for her. If she made dinner, offer to clean up the dishes so she can relax a bit.
Give her a massage. They work great if she's stressed, plus they can segue nicely into foreplay with relative ease.
Make sure it's fun! Don't do the same routine every time, change it up and be spontaneous. Try new things.
2007-02-22 08:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by larsor4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, YOU are not going to be able to tune up her libido. She will have to do that herself. When most women have a child, they become responsible adults, over night. Men don't go through the physical stress of childbirth, or the hormonal shifts we experience on a regular basis. We are not put on this earth strictly for your physical pleasure. Men have to understand, that there are times when a woman would rather scrub out a bathtub than have sex!
2007-02-22 08:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is now ashamed of her body as it is one hell of a thing to go through and I always felt fat and ugly after each of my 3 kids. My hubby was great though and always made a fuss of me, always telling me he loves me, always hugging and kissing. If you really love her, patience, kindness and understanding is what you need. I know 5 yrs is a hell of a long time and you sure need a medal! She needs to start liking herself again, and needs reassuring that you love her no matter what. Try to get her to open up about why she has gone off sex? I am sure if you discuss it (gently) you may well start the ball rolling again.
It is knackering being a mum and probably going to work as well and also keeping on top of all the mundane daily tasks.
Have you tried taking her away to a health spa type of place, get someone to have your son for a weekend if you can, get yourselves very pampered, and who knows!
2007-02-22 08:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Alli D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife's?
Forget it, when you got married that was he cue to cut you off from sex. It's a common story.
Sad but true.
2007-02-22 08:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest bringing in another woman to the bedroom. Her natural competitive instincts will kick in.
2007-02-22 08:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋