ok married 24 yrs hubby cheated with some little tramp and then left me and his kids......4 of them....to be with her well its been a year and he lost his job his phone is off the girl is pregnant and cant work.......he has no money and cant pay his bills he is getting kicked out yet i ....find comfort in that.........what does that say about me?
2007-02-22 08:02:49 · 31 answers · asked by Mary G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You had nothing to do with his current misfortune, count your blessing. He treated you badly, and now is having a difficult time. Taking comfort that his grass didn't turn out greener is normal. In retrospect, he did you a favor! Remember - what goes around comes around, and for him - boy did it come around!
2007-02-22 08:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are human but the comfort is a fleeting thing. If he lost his job, it could be that he is depressed over the breakup himself and maybe he's now realizing that perhaps he should have just 'fessed up to you, begged forgiveness and stayed home. Better to be paying child support to the gal and staying with you, the kids, and the house where he had a more normal life. Did you get divorced or is he just separated from you? After 24 years and 4 kids, you know each other better than anyone else does...so maybe you need to talk. He may have learned a real hard lesson and maybe, just maybe, your sense of "serves ya right" is showing a bit of reserved affection for all those years. Hey! A serious talk couldn't hurt - even if it is a pep talk to get him back to work and on his feet. If he's broke and miserable, he can't help you with support!! Good luck!
2007-02-22 16:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you find comfort in that does not say that you are a bad person..the only possible way that you may be thought of as a bad person is if you caused him to lose his job, or home, or his phone..but you didnt so.. rock on sister!! after 24 years.. a little gloating on your part is small comfort to you, but its still comfort nontheless. he made his choices, now let him deal with the results.
2007-02-22 16:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by d.a. b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the total woman and I think that it's fully cool that you feel good about his folly! I think he's a creep and a tyrant dictator and glad too (for the kids sake not so much) but for you glad that he was overthrown. I hope he doesn't forget the children. Along the way to a persons freedom sometimes the children get lost not thinking that they matter. For him I hope he remembers to love them.
2007-02-22 16:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says you're human and you did not cause this. It's called what comes around goes around, Karma. I'm glad for you. I'm hoping the same thing happened to my exhusband. I wish I knew how that played out. Keep your head on straight and I know it's tuff. Take care and good luck to you.
2007-02-22 16:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bobbi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pay back is a b i t c h....it's all good your ex or whatever he is to you now is loser. So let him be a loser with the knocked up tramp most likely it isn't even his. It is all good take care of yourself and this does not make you a bad person makes a stupid one.
2007-02-22 16:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are finding comfort in the fact that his poor decisions have reaped poor results. Sounds like everything is right in the world; and that your feelings are nothing short of human nature. Enjoy it. Hell....even have pity for them, if it makes you feel even better.
2007-02-22 16:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by W3TOD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon i cant blame ya. my hubby cheated with a tramp once. we managed to work things out and now he is faithful. but that bimbo he cheated with is now doing time for drug related crimes. i know it is bad but i was so happy i danced. i hope she thinks trice before she preys on married men again!
2007-02-22 16:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay backs are H E L L
2007-02-22 16:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of us reading your post are going "YES!" with a righteous punch in the air. Sometimes what 'goes around' does 'come around'. It may not be very 'christian' but your reaction is certainly human.
2007-02-22 16:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋